Where do I look when making Eye Contact?

It is absolutely impossible to look into both a person's eyes when making eye contact.

When making eye contact, so as not to appear as staring, start with one eye and move slowly to the other. If this is uncomfortable for you, look at the bridge of the nose about eye level, as the nose is in the center of the face it makes your eyes look like they are looking directly into the other person's eyes. Looking at the eyebrow area will make it look like you are looking over the other person's head (thereby defeating the point of direct eye contact).

If you don't shift your eyes at least a little bit, it looks like you are staring or that you are a dolt. Look from one eye to the other, moving the shift in gaze slowly, making a minute stop at the bridge of the nose before moving to the next eye. Moving your gaze too quickly makes you look, well, shifty.

Making eye contact does not mean you can't shift your gaze or blink.

Here's lookin' atcha, kid!

I've noticed that most people during the process of several thought processes will go from one eye to the next.

Or if they are seeking an answer from you, they'll look at the bridge of the nose between the eyes. I think it's so they can take in both eyes and eyebrow position.

The eyes tell a lot.

You are making an issue out of nothing. If you aren't self conscious about it, no one else will notice either.

Unless they trying to bust you lying.

I know exactly what you are talking about!!!

This is what I do, and I think it works... I look at one eye, but I try to pick the eye closest to me so that it doesn't look like I am looking past the person. Sometimes this doesn't work.

Also, you can sort of feel when it is the wrong I to look at, so then just switch to the other eye.

I think looking in an eye is the right option though... I think people will know if you are not looking in their eyes...

Also, I think this problem is more noticeable when you standing too close to your conversation partner, so try to get some space between the two of you.

Good luck!!!

Dude, just pick an eye.. and if it seems you've been staring at that eye for too long, just look away before you say some thing, and then look back at the other eye when you look at her again.

But if you look just under the middle of the eye brawls, and just above the nose, your eyes can actually look at both her eyes at the same time.(but only from a distance of 1 foot 4 inches or more)

What an odd question.

Everybody has a dominate eye just like they favor an arm. Most right handed people are right eyed and vise versa.

Try to find their dominate eye and look at that one. It's easier than you think. Practice with a friend - look at one of their eyes while your talking to them and then switch to the other, you'll notice them having to adjust to yours (if they weren't self conscious about it in the beginning). Or do what I do and don't look at them; I always turn an ear towards the speaker.

I don't think you should worry too much about it because it will make you more aware of what you think you are doing wrong. People tend to look into the eyes and away, not holding a firm stare, but being sociable, as well as looking at the surroundings in view and the face as a whole

This is one of those simple things that the more you obsess over it, the harder it becomes to do. You are right, you need to get back to that happy point in time in which you made eye contact as unconsciously as you breathe (no, please, don't start thinking about how you breathe now!)

Instead of thinking about yourself and where to look when you are conversing with someone, the trick is to really LISTEN to what they are saying and then to really RESPOND. Your problem has become that you are only paying attention with half your mind because of focusing on this physical issue of where to look. Instead, practice the art of really listening and really conversing. Hear what the other person is saying, all levels of meaning, note their body language, the inflections of their speech, try to get genuinely interested in the content of what comes out of their mouth.

I can promise you this: When you truly interact, on that intimate conversational level with your fellow human beings, you will forget to worry about eye contact and you will begin to make soul contact which is really what it is all about anyway.

eye contact is something very important in every kind of relatonships..

eye contact is an ilusion that we have to transmit.. is u look at the yes, nose, eyebrows, dont matter.. because thats gonna make the ilusion that ur looking at the person's eyes.. so.. dont worry n look where u feel more confortable..

When you are looking at someone's eyes, unless you are staring, your eyes move around the general vicinity of their eyes looking at either eye every few seconds, or back and forth from one eye to the other.

i suppose focusing on one eye might seem weird.

distance and relative heights come to play.

focusing on eyes, nose bridge is fine. theres also something about intensity of gaze. so from time to time, shift focus to a different part of face slightly, say eye brows, and return.