my son went w/a girl you just had a child?

similar thing kinda happened with my parents....sorta.

well they too excepted the little bundle of joy into their home even though they arent blood related. my brother and his girlfriend are still together, so its not too complicated yet! i too find myself attached to that little munchkin, im like the step aunt. i can understand you accepting the first child as your own because at the time they were still together. but now that they have split, you shouldnt have to have the same ties to the new little one. i say that you explain to the mother that you will gladly spend time with the first child, but that its not going to be the same with the new one. its kinda the same how some siblings have different dads, ya know how the one sibling might go see visit their dad for the weekend, but that doesnt mean that the other siblings are gonna go tooo!

so i would tell her that its just not gonna be the same, espically since your son and her arent together anymore, its a whole different ball game now!

GOODLUCK!!

i think that blended families are the best (then again i am biased because i am from one) and the more grandkids, whether they are blood related or not, then the more love and joy that you can experiance...but make sure to explain to your soon to be daughter in law, and your son that you will continue to visit with his ex's baby....if that is what you decide....if not then explain to the ex why you think it would be complicated....but in the end do what you feel is right in your heart....and keep in mind that the child will end up feeling rejected not only by his "dad" but also by his "grandma" and rejection is hard to understand at a young age....and possibly more hurtful and damaging!

In the end i hope that it all works out for you guys!!

If you care for her and the children as a grandparent would, why not. You may be a positive role model for these children. If you do not feel the bond then the answer would be no.