Why does my mother and sometimes "mother in-law" call to tell me how to run my life ??

Look, old people just need to talk because they figure they're gonna be dead soon, so if they keep talking and talking and talking it might prolong their lives because nobody has ever heard of somebody dropping dead while in the middle of blabbering on about some rumor they heard.

Ok, first of all, I hope you are feeling better. Secondly, what does your husband do when his mom says this garbage and treats you badly? He is at fault if she is allowed to disrespect you in your own house! Thirdly, and most importantly, you need to realize that this has nothing to do with you. You didn't do anything and there is nothing you could have done to prevent her from being a b*tch. Imagine your children, born perfect, loved, supported and able to care for other people in a genuine, not needy, way. Now imagine what would have to be done to them in order to grow to be people like your MIL. She feels like she is garbage. She feels like she doesn't deserve a husband (and has had that proven to her). She feels worthless so the only thing she knows how to do is to pass it on to you. Women can be really sick this way. Don't let her affect you. You have her son, whether she likes it or not. He needs to grow a pair and stick up for you, not allow her to say a single negative thing about you EVER, or risk losing him. Thats the only thing that will ever shut her up. BUT in the meantime, know that the only way you have to react to her shenanagins is to take a breath. And another. And another. Don't accept the gift of her resentment. If she gave you a gift of horse maneure, you'd not accept that, right? Consider her lip another gift. Just walk away from it. If you don't accept it, if you just keep breathing, she can't hurt you. I feel sorry for her. She sounds like a miserable human being. I do think you need to tell your husband that he has to set very very clear boundaries with her. Good luck.

Alas, my mother and mother-in-law have both passed, and with their passing, have passed that torch to me. I regularly call my brothers and offer them unsolicited advice, my random thoughts on how terribly they are doing with their lives. I loan them money and send extravagant gifts for holidays and birthdays for the privelege.

My answer to you, sugar....

They won't stop until you start..

You need to phone them OFTEN with as much gossip as you can make up. Then call them again when you know they won't be home, leave a very long and detailed message about your child's last bowel movement...

Pretty much,everything everyone has said ,is true. Sorry, this is life........ My MIL as long since passed. My mother is still alive ......When My MIL was alive, I didn't appreciated her, I was young and stupid !! I can look back now and see how special she was. I can honestly say she is my hero !!.........I actually had the "good fortune" of living with her for a short period of time, That was fun!!!OMG!!......Her son was the youngest and the only boy, YES !!! Anyway, what I trying to say is They Love you, They mean no harm, so Just tell them when they call " Hey, I can't talk long,I've got things to do." ..........Be nice, It want stop the calls, it will shorten the length of them, thou !!...............................I promised myself years ago,I would not be like either one of them, when I get older.Well, guess what?..................If I wasn't a little like them I wouldn't be the person I am today....It's not all bad, it just depends on how you LOOK at things !!!! GOOD LUCK, SMILE!!!

IDK....

same situation here.

I don't think it'll ever stop. She does take a hint when it starts to get annoying (because I do have kids too and things to do) and gives me a few weeks break.

I just take them shopping to bond, so they feel attached to my family. Seems to work. So the endless advice and gossip about people I don't know doesn't get too overwhelming for me.

Sorry sweetheart but it will never stop ! ROFLMAO ! My mother in-law calls me from Italy, thinking, the answering machine will let her "leave a one hour message" too ! I laugh at it now, but my MIL was the reason, I got a caller ID in the first place ! Try to find the humor in it, but it will never stop !!!

It all depends on how much they love to get involved but they may just be looking out for you. I suppose it is annoying mind especially when you have grown up and got a family.

My mum never stopped fussing after me even when I had been in the army for years and looking after myself.

God bless her she always used to say to me " You are never to big to get a smack " alas she has passed away never know how much you miss them until their gone.

I know sometimes it can be a pain but I suppose they miss you.

Sounds like there is no answer for this one that will stop the pain short of changing your phone number

I agree with Buk.. my mom died and mother in law a year ago.. But i am older but i dont stay on the phone with my sons..dont really care too..Just listen to her or mil..cut the conversation short and leave it be.

I agree with Clo and Buk....

It is just one of the laws of nature that will never change...

Peace.