In "hot again / cold again" relationships, is the end result usually "cold again for good"?

there's nothin' cold as ashes

after the fire is gone.

though a good number of couples seem to get by on tepid.

Usually. I mean, yeah, the drama and passion can surely be fun, but ultimately, it's not sustainable and one of you will get sick of it, if not both. I'm not saying you should be in a relationship that's on an even keel all the time, and certainly if you're a certain age the drama is all the fun, but ultimately, you'll want something more stable.

Yes!! That is unless the couple works very hard (including things like Couples' Counseling...Anger Management, etc.) to make it work.

In those hot again / cold again relationships, normally someone is cheating, someone is super-jealous, there are severe money problems, or there is abuse (at least emotional abuse). These things don't fix themselves. A therapist is in order...and if one doesn't work...get to another one.

I believe so. The ones that are constantly breaking up and getting back together don't make it in the end, it seems to me. usually they have been "over" for quite some time but both are afraid to leave the comfort of each other and move on already.

I feel bad for you girl. And I completely understand. That can get very annoying. Like who does he think he is. He wants the best of both worlds.i cant answer your question directly because i just dont understand the guy and his actions but I can understand what I am getting out it. You might want to get out of this relationship. Now.

its usually cold. because one of these times it goes cold somebody going to get in a realtionship with someone else.

That's a hard one LC.. I think it would be time to hang up the old spurs.. the old horse aint no good no more... so whats the use in kickin something when it aint go no more gitty up and go.. (just my observation)

Yes it's draining.1 of you will get fed up for good

Yep.

Get out before it becomes too annoying.

I would say so