4 month old crys at bedtime?

if u just ignore him he will realize that he cant get attention that way anymore and he will go right to sleep. It may seem mean to let him just lay there and cry himself to sleep but trust me he will get tired of it pretty soon when nobody gives him attention.

He shouldn't need swaddling at 4 months, try warm pajamas instead that allow movement. This is a good time to start reading to him - at this age, almost anything that rhymes, like Dr. Seuss or nursery rhymes, are good and hypnotic. Don't get "into" reading - the drone of a monotone is good for sleep along with gentle rocking or just sitting beside the crib with a hand on him.

He might not enjoy being swaddled anymore. They usually stop liking it between 4 -8 months. He might just have started realizing that his cries get your attention and then he gets held and rocked. Babies are smarter than we give them credit for, sometimes. Try staying close with a hand on him and talking to him softly, or singing. You can also, if he's swaddled, rock him gently with your hand without picking him up.

Your baby has made the discovery of bedtime! He is now getting anxious that you are going to leave him and shows his displeasure by crying. He is not feeling secure right now as this is all new to him. Just sit with him, hold his hand,pat his little back or bottom as you read or sing, read and sing softly to him to let him know that you are there. The touch from you is just as important as him hearing your voice at the same time to know he is safe and secure. After you have gone through this for a few months he will be fine at bedtime. It is simply training him that bedtime is not something he has to fear, it is something nice for him and Mommy/Daddy each night, keep your routines the same for him to feel confident, and know that if you stick to the good feeling each night at bed you will not have years of him crying at night, getting up and sleeping with you at night or fighting you every night at bedtime. I never used nap time, time out or his bedroom as a punishment for my son when he was small and to this day he still thinks fondly of our bedtime stories, telling each other "secrets" and our talks in general when he got older. I always began the night time ritual with a soothing warm bath and started singing soothing songs to him during the bath, a nightly rub down with baby lotion and then carried the sleepy, sweet smelling bundle to be told fabulous fairy tales until he slept like the angel he was. Be patient - it took him 4 months to realize what was happening and it may take that long to show him that bedtime is not a scary time too! Best of luck with your little bundle of joy and I urge you to appreciate every precious moment of the bedtime ritual with him. They grow up faster than imaginable!!

my son was waking up through the night 2 or 3 times until he was 12 weeks old i started giving him water in a bottle just before he was 13 weeks he soon got fed up waking up and getting water (which he hated and refused to take) by time he was 13 weeks he started sleeping through the night if he wakens up now its for a dummy. hes now 21 weeks old and been teething for a while but the only time in the last 8 weeks he has woken through the night and refused to go back over was this morning at 4.30am but that was due to a dirty nappy as a mum with another 2 children 3 and 2 also a grandchild to watch just over 1 i can appreciate how tired you are (thank goodness my other 3 children are now adults) but good luck trying all the ideas

Baby's can't be manipulative. Thats in response to some of the other questions.

But at a certain age, babys and toddlers can get scared of falling asleep. Some little ones just don't like the sensation of falling asleep.

I'd suggest just keep rocking him for now, until he grows out of this. Maybe work it in stages, rocking him to sleep, and then change to just putting him in his crib and patting his back gently..or rubbing his back etc. To just standing there verbally comforting him etc.

Its kinda normal. Kids need a routine but soon get to know whats coming next. Be firm and do not give in. It is a battle you cant afford to loose. Check on him if he gets too upset but do not pick him up again after you put him in his bed. Bedtime is Bedtime.....

make a tape of you telling him to go to sleep and that he is a good little boy with some gentle music in the background. the story doesnt matter its the gentle tone of your voice and the music that will help to sooth him. i done this with my twins and it worked a treat. he may have just had a bad dream thats taking him time to get over. he will be ok as you know yourself. good luck and god bless you and your baby.

stop swaddling the poor thing he probably feels like hes in a straight jacket.

maybe he doesnt want to be swaddled anymore? alot of babies i know grow out of swaddling by 3 months.

Also he's at the age where he doesnt know how to put himself to sleep. YOu have to teach him to put himself to sleep...try laying him down when he visably shows signs of beign tired.