Feeling a lil Depressed ,help me before i do something a regret?

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my mother says im selfish and mean sometimes. yeah sumtimes she treats my one of my eldest brothers better than me. high school she didnt like taking me to school because it was far and was about a 25 minute drive. now im in college and have a job, she has every reason in the world not to bring. and always say i have no gas and school is 6minutes driving distance. she puts so much financial burden. just when im at the brink of saving or almost financially secure,here she go i need 200 dollars. and my brother who make 700-900 dollars she ease the financial burden. in not making that great amount. i try to forgive and just make plans to get another place. am i wrong? Now My hair is relaxed and got done proffessionally for the first time by a friend, all a sudden she offered to take me to the salon and all a sudden she's claiming me when she found out i became a manager. this is the same job offered she told me to turn down. how do i overcome this and am i wrong for feeling the way i do?

arnie · Accepted Answer

your mother is co-dependant and your friend is jealous because you took the job she wanted and it wasnt offered to her?
  You should never ever feel bad about bettering yourself, as far as your mom is concerned she is old enought to have her own money,,,,make her understand your money is yours and she needs to learn how to budget hers better,,,,she is living through you and that is unhealthy,,,your mom needs a hobby and you need to make yourself happy by knowing you have done nothing wrong,,,
  Chin Up....

-&gt;No Name&lt;- · Answer

Stop giving her money. Especially if you don't make enough to let her borrow all the time. If she gets mad and says mean things then let her. You shouldn't let that be a reason to give her money. Don't ask her for anything. Do everything yourself. I learned that at the age of 15. Don't let her take advantage of you because if you always give her money she'll always ask. Just get your own place and worry about yourself especially if she never did anything for you. Why should you do all that for her?? You just need to learn to say "No".

Anonymous · Answer

Your mom sounds like she is one of those difficult people in life.  Aka, she's a pain in the ***, but she's your mom.  I would talk to your brother about helping your mom out financially since he seems to be making more than you and you are in school.  

I don't know the whole situation, but from what you said, you deserve to have more than someone like that in your life.  Yeah, she's your mom, but if she wasn't, would you put up with that **** from someone else?  I'd let her crap stay that way, let it be her crap and not yours.  Let it roll and do for yourself.  You may not feel so trapped and depressed.

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell her you cant afford it and to ask your brother. If she tries to make you feel bad go hang out with your friends to get your mind off of it. Do something fun, just don't let it get to you. It could also be a good idea to help her make a finical plan so that she can find out where her $ is going & to help control her spending.
~Kit~

Nicole · Answer

STOP STOP STOP STOP! dont give her any more money you are not helping her on any way and it will not make your relationship any better with her

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