Why do people feel that just because you're in a long term relationship...?

hey fbj, I really know how you feel, I'm lucky to be married to an incredible lady who puts up with my azz, but marriage is not for everyone. I guess people who love you are concerned with dude possibly using up all of your young fine years and then leaving like alot of guys do. if you're happy folks should be happy for you. you just dont want to look up and be forty and be regret-full and have to choose from a bunch of fat old men....lol

so do i. me and my bf have been together for over 3 1/2 years now, and his parents are trying to rush us into marriage (they want to get a ring soon). it all has to do with albanian traditions, but I really don't agree with them. I believe that marriage is a choice made between two people when they feel the time is right.. A long-term relationship is no justification for marriage. It might imply that the relationship is heading in that direction, but there shouldn't be a rush. Personally, i wish his parents could change their thinking, because I don't want to be pressured by others in making my own life decisions. I want to do what makes ME happy, because it is my life.

I think people have the tendency to think that just because a couple has had a long relationship, that it's about time they tie the knot. It reflects certain cultures, beliefs, and preconceived notions that people have.

Yes .... I have been with my bf for 2 years and his sister just got married not so long ago... and all their family members were talking about when we get married this and that ... and telling us that we were the next .... we seriously have talk about it but we don't feel ready yet...

I just tell them that we don't have plans yet...I know it get annoying after a while everybody asking you that... I just ignored them because marriage is something very important that you have to think twice and be very sure before you tight the knot...

Good Luck!

It's crazy because I know some girls that have been with guys for 4 years and expect to marry them. I guess it's whether you want to or not...I know I would or else I wouldn't be wasting my time. Not saying that you are because you know what you want...but for me...if that was me...then I would want to get married real soon.

Wow ... I'm getting this from my friends and I've only been with my g/f for two and a half years. (Granted - having five of my friends all get married over the past two years hasn't helped matters much)

I totally agree with your point of view. My problem is that I have been married for over 33 years.

its the next logical step. i dont think people mean to offend u. personally im 25 and dont plan on marrying any time soon.

dont get married that will change things if you are happy who care what anyone thinks

Sweet heart do what your heart tells u to do don't follow other people's wards co's it's u to who will safe.

people like to live others life that is