Ladies, sensitive ? If you have had.. or know someone who has had an abortion.. any regrets?

I had one when I was 23...I'm 29 now. I don't regret it because it was right for me at the time. I was with someone emotionally and verbally abusive, and I would have had to stay with him because I didn't want and wasn't able to be a single mom. I don't have any close family, and I wanted more for my life than to live in a mill town with an uncaring man and no job or money. I'm now living across the country and doing well for myself.

I guess at the time I just wanted to be out of the situation so I didn't really think about what it meant to have an abortion or whether it was "right" or "wrong". I still can't say what I think because it's different for everybody and it's a very personal decision. All I can say is that it was right for me at the time. Would it be right for me now? Probably not. If I had a baby now I know it would grow up in a loving home with every opportunity available to it, not growing up in poverty and abuse.

I do still think about it from time to time...how could I not? Sometimes I'll think, "Wow, I would have had a two year old now," or a 5 year old. I wonder if it would have been a boy or a girl and what it would have looked like. But ultimately I know it would have been a very unhappy life for both of us.

I don't think anybody should judge what anyone else does (within reason of course) but with abortion it's a very grey area. There are definitely times I think abortion is wrong. For example, when people get multiple abortions b/c they just haven't bothered to use birth control, that's wrong. When people have money and resources (family etc) to help out and are in stable relationships I don't think it's right to have an abortion.

I hope this helped

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I never have, and hope to whatever's up there that my contraception never fails me and I never need one; but I know I would have no qualms in having an abortion if I were to become pregnant.

My O/H & I do not have the financial means to support a child at this moment; and when we do I am making the right choice and not reproducing so that I do not bring another child into this forsaken country, and world.

I would much rather spend my time and money on myself, my partner, family, friends and pets; as well as keep my figure and my current level of continence.

I would much rather keep my figure and continue to feel good about myself; than have a child & spend every day wishing I didn't as I now hate the way I look and don't have the time or money to do anything about it.

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Sorry, I have to disagree with "Cappy29" - being in a stable relationship & having money and other resources doesn't matter if you don't want children, not wanting children is the overriding factor.

I did- I did it because if my family would've found out I was pregnant and unmarried (and 20), that I thought I would have "disgraced" them. Had I to do it all over again, I would've kept my baby and had the guts to say, "I don't care what you think" and would've done the right thing. I think it was morally wrong to do something like that.

I do know that, while I dont advocate pregnancy before being in a commited relationship (commited enough to embrace marriage), if the same situation happened to my daughter, I would not want her to feel the shame that I did. I'd have the "real" christian attitude of being supportive, loving, and finding a way through it. That's what God would REALLY want.

You may want to actually type this question under the Religion section (think there might be a Christian section). Not all of us are Christian, and it IS a sensitive topic.

I just come here to find out if someone thinks burping out loud in a public place is rude or matters concerning RSVP. Wasn't expecting a question on abortion.

A girl I went to school with had one.She had missed one pill and got pregnant.She wanted to go to college,and she knew this was not the time to have a child.As far as I knew she never regretted it.I haven't seen her since I finished school,but I'm sure she made the right decision.

I know of a couple of ladies that have had one, and both say they had no regrets. They both were in terrible relationships, it it was best for them to terminate their pregnancies.

One felt that having their child would've severely altered their life for the worse. The other one knew they did not want to have children and tried their best to keep from getting pregnant, and they still did.

Mind you, both of these women are still adamantly pro-choice.

Maybe they regret not using protection, maybe they regret the guy doesn't want to marry them, maybe they regret they aren't old enough to be mothers yet. Yes.