Where do you suppose trust/jealousy issues come from?

Since one of my interests in life is spiritual studies, I am a firm believer in reincarnation. Common threads run through the multiple thousands upon thousands of cases I have read about of relevance between one's present life attitudes and past life experiences.

It is highly possible that you and your siblings were all involved in relationships and/or marriages in past lives that were not as strictly and faithfully monogamous as they should have been.

I have realized over the course of decades of study that a huge percentage of our psycho/emotional problems stem from us all superimposing subconscious memories of past-life experiences over our present life situations - where they don't belong.

At its mildest and simplest, it just creates inappropriate attitudes and/or vague unfounded anxieties on a subconscious level - exactly like what you and your siblings are experiencing.

At its worst and most severe, I believe it accounts for much of what is diagnosed and labeled as "insanity" today. A classic example of that was a story I heard about a person who recounted a tale of being raped by members of the law enforcement establishment, bearing a child from that rape and then having that child taken away by some of those same authorities. The story might sound credible if the person telling were not a MAN! Logically, he admitted he KNEW that it wasn't possible, but he SWORE that he STILL actually REMEMBERED it as a true and genuine experience!

How many people would judge this guy as totally bonkers? He even doubted his OWN sanity because he either didn't believe in reincarnation at all or believed that if it WAS real, he wouldn't remember it so this could have no relevance to ti. Most people who DO believe in reincarnation mistakenly presume that we start each new life with a clean, blank slate and no trace of the previous lives will be left behind. When, in actuality, our present self is no less than the sum total of everyone we have EVER been!

If we look at his bizarre recollection as a possible past-life memory superimposed over a present life situation where it just doesn't fit, it takes on a whole different perspective.

While jealousy and mistrust CAN and sometimes DO spring purely from an attitude of "owning" the other person and regarding them more as personal property than as a fellow human being endowed with the same rights we claim for ourselves, from your description of the situation, you and your siblings don't strike me as that kind of people.

So, in your case, I would suspect past life experiences with unfaithful relationships. Your current mates and/or love interests may or may not have been involved. Chances are they have played roles in your past lives, but those roles were not necessarily the same then as they are now.

In any case, I would advise you to check it out and answer that question for yourself. Find a licensed hypnotherapist who does past life regressions and find out once and for all.

maybe when you were an infant your needs weren't fully met. erik erikson said we learn to trust as infants depending on the type of care we recieve. reliable, responsive and warm. so I guess you would have to ask your mom what kind of baby you were (and your siblings). you might find out a lot through what she says.

you know, on the other hand, we all get a little jealous sometimes. i totally trust my husband but sometimes i go there too and i'm not sure why. i think it may be biological. we need to keep our partners and protect that relationship for our survival (or at least we used to). but we are grown ups now and we feel secure enough about ourselves that we let our spouse have their lives and make their choices. right?

From being cheated on or lied to by someone you really loved and was supposed to love you.

Attachment to a person.

Focus on yourself.

i think it comes from your personal experciance in life!