If my son tells the groom he can't afford going to the bachelor party...will he be out of the wedding party

I would say not. If his friend, the groom, knows him well enough to invite him and give him a role in his wedding, then he should already know his personal circumstances. It shouldn't therefore be a surprise to him that your son cannot afford the bachelor party. I am sure he will understand. I certainly don't think he would find someone else - what sort of a friend is he if he does? However, I woudl say that he does need to let him know ASAP about his inablity to attend just so that the groom knows numbers etc for whatever he is planning. You never know, your son may not be alone in lack of funds. The groom may decide to make alternative arrangements for his stag do. Hope that helps you.

That is for the groom to decide. No one else. The groom picked your son for a reason so it doesn't make any sense why he would pick a replacement just because the best man is planning an expensive extravagant bachelor party. Don't count your chickens before they've hatched. No one has any business or right saying that the groom will kick him out. Are they the groom? Is it their decision rather than his? No on both counts.

However your son needs to bring this up immediately, not somewhere down the road when he gets around to it.

I'm sure the groom will understand and not kick him out of the wedding party. Bachelor/bachelorette parties can be very expensive, and I would think most people would understand that not everyone can afford all that goes on in a wedding. He should just talk to the groom about it. I think it would be very rude of the groom to kick out a groomsman because he can't afford the bachelor party.

the bachelor party has nothing to do with the wedding party. the groom shouldn't kick him out of the wedding party just because he can't do the stag party, that's wrong. for bachelorette & bachelor parties, people other than the wedding party are invited too but they don't take the place of the groomsmen and bridesmaids.

no, its just the bachelor party. Not going doesnt stop them from being friends or best friends. That would just be rude if he kicked him out of the wedding party. maybe he could explain to the groom why he cant go and maybe he will help him out or something.

he should talk to the groom to see if he is still in the wedding party. What groomsman does not go to the bachelor party? What did he think it meant to be a groomsman, he's supposed to be there for the groom, especially at the bachelor party. What kind of friend is he? He couldn't go and sit for a while even if he doesn't drink and would not usually go to a strip bar? This is not about him it was supposed to be about his supposed friend. He just might have opted out of the whole thing for insulting the groom so your son needs to talk to the groom and find out.

Its just a bachelor party not the wedding

thats kinda messed up if the groom would kick him out just cuz he could afford it. have your son talk to the groom and tell him such... if hes in the wedding party then obviously hes close enough to the groom to be able to talk to him about that kinda stuff.

He is not required to attend the bachelor party, unless of course he is the Best man, in which case its his responsibility to actually throw the party.

if your son cant go he should tell the groom , and if they were good friends the groom should be understandive enough to just let it skip by them!!