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I know this is weird...but I like it this way?
I've been off and on friends with this guy for years. But we never hung out until just recently because he had a drug problem and well I didn't. We started talking alot though this year for some reason and got really close without hanging out outside school. He started dating a girl after Christmas but he talked to me and flirted with me still. But we kept it sociable never taking it to far. I am a huge Patriots fan and he's a Giants fan so I invited him over to my house for the Superbowl. He didn't come over but the next week him and his gf broke up. He came over the next day and me and him fooled around some. I had no intention of being his gf. I know slutty. But we started hanging out just about everyday and having sex and going out on the wkends. But we kept it friendly. No relationship. About three weeks into our 'friends w/ benifits' relationship. He found another gf but we still hang out and well have sex. No one even knows about the other girl. They associate us being together
Today we were sitting on the couch making out and he's like we should go have sex and I am like no because my mom was in the next room. He laughed it off and was like we've done it before and besides I think she knows that me and you have sex. I told him that she didn't and that we were just friends so why would we have sex. He got all defensive and was like 'we are more than friends.' and than he said half seriously we are 'friends with benefits.' I was like whatever. I don't know if he was afraid I didn't want to do the dirty with him anymore or what. But then we kind of stopped and he kept putting emphasis on that he loved me and blah blah. I am probably why we don't have a relationship because I am committment phobic or whatever.
What I don't understand is why is it so important for our relationship to have the 'friends with benifits' title not just to each other but to everybody. Is he marking his teritory? Or is he afraid to loose his catch?
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
You are letting him "have his cake and eat it too" so to speak. He likes the sex with you, but does not want commitment because it frees him up to be with other girls. You are giving him every guys fantasy. What about this other girl? Is he having sex with her too? He is just using you!!! You are better than this and should not let this guy use you anymore. What do you think goes through his head when he is with you? You think he respects you? Think better of yourself and treat yourself with respect. Never give it up just to be doing "it". Find that right guy and save yourself some heartache. Besides you should be married having sex that will save you allot of heartache as well.
