Is this right?

First of all, you sound like such a good guy. The fact that you are willing to risk your happiness just so you don't hurt someone says a lot about you. Second of all, If you really are not in love with her anymore, and you just love her now, it would be best to just let it go. I know it is hard, and I know it is tough but if there is no doubt in your mind that you could ever love her again, it's not fair for yourself. I believe in fate and destiny and all that romantic crap. And I believe there is someone out there for everyone. Say you chose to marry her, then someone that you fall head over heels in love with comes up to you and you know that she is the one, your married, and marriage is a lot harder to get out of then a relationship. If you drag this on any longer, it could hurt a lot more than right now. She sounds like a very sweet lovely girl. If you think that the love is gone because there is nothing interesting anymore in your relationship, you could always try counseling, taking a break, there is nothing wrong with separation. If you really want it to work out, try remembering what you fell in love with her for in the first place and try to do more spontaneous things. I really hope you work this out. It sucks living a lie. Take Care.

Okay, you have got to take a break and see what happens. You can't marry this girl if you are not in love with her--- you will both be miserable. She will know that something is not right if you marry her and are not happy. Divorce is way too common these days--- if you are already feeling this way, don't become a statistic--- tell her you need a break, that you love her as a good friend, but you think maybe you guys are not meant to be. Believe me, she will appreciate the truth alot more than a lie! Good luck!

That is so not right. If you do that it will just lead to divorce because you cannot do that all your life, you will end up cheating or doing something stupid that will hurt her 10x more. Tell her right now how you feel and that you think you should take a break (not break up) but just take a break and see how things go from there. You cannot do this to her, get marry and lie - then get sick of being with a woman who you DO NOT love and file for divorce or cheat, ok?

You say you love her as a friend then show it don't lie!

She will be happier with a man that loves her in return! I think your just confused get your sh*t together and your life straight; then make a big desicion either stay because you truly love her or leave because you have decided she is not the one for you.

Dude, in my opinion if you marry her and lie to yourself and her at the same time. Eventually it will catch up to you and seriously hurt both of you. If you don't love her anymore you need to tell her. How would she will feel if 5 years from now and you get married and possibly have kids and the whole shi bang. You then finally can't handle lieing anymore and you tell her. You have hurt more than just yourself you hurt children too. I would tell her now when the time is right. In the words of shakespeare "to thine ownself be true" take that how you want to.

I think that you only THINK you love her like a friend. If you feel as though you two are friends, but you still love her, it seems to me that you already ARE married! =] What a great person you are to want her to be happy, but if you are going to marry her, and PRETEND to love her, if she finds out, you'll break her heart even more than if you dump her. Think about it. Is it a risk you're willing to take?

no u should not sacrifice your happiness for hers b/c if she really loves u and wants u to be happy she will understand that u have to do this for you!

you shouldnt sacrifice yourself. i mean maybe you need some time to be alone. i know it will be very hard for her but you should tell her i wouldnt want a guy to be with me just because he feels sorry for me.

Wow.....this is a toughy!