My daughter is a 15 year old mother of a 5 month old. What should I expect from her?

You need to confront her. Her child is not getting what he deserves. She is not being a good mother. This is the perfect example why teenagers should not be mothers.

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My daughter is a 15 year old mother of a 5 month old. What should I expect from her?

My daughter is 15 she has a 5 month old baby boy (my sweet grandson). She lives with me so I am there to help her. My question is, what limits should I give her? How can a mom be a mother to her daughter who is a mother. She loves her baby but almost every night she wants to hang out with her...

I can't say I am a teenager but I am 25 years old so I feel like I am still relatively close to the teenage years. I think you need to remember that although she is dealing with a very adult situation she still is a child and your child at that. If she is living under your roof and not helping than you have the right to make her. Take away the playstation and computer. Set ground rules. She needs to understand that her needs are no longer number 1 and her son's needs have to come first. Talk to her, explain your frustrations and see what she has to say. If she wasn't ready to be a mom then maybe she should have considered giving the baby up for adoption. She needs to realize that babies are not just for looks and that they require more time and attention than she seems to be giving him. Make her understand that you will do all you can to help but you are there to do just that, help not raise the child. That is her job and the decision she made when she decided to keep her son. I know you have probably thought of most of this if not all but I hope I have helped a little. Good Luck!

You should expect her to be a mother. Her social life is pretty much over for now until the child gets older. If you wanted you could babysit maybe one night a week or a month so she can hang out with her friends, but not all the time. She has to take responsibility for her actions. I was 17, and i know there is a large gap between a 17 and 15 year old but you have to be tough. Good luck and congrats on the grandbaby:)

Mom,

I was 16 when I had my first son. My mother never gave me the option to do cyber schooling. I graduated high school (in top 10 in class) and had to find a job to help support my son. I thank her for being what seemed to be 'hard' on me at the time. Now I see that it was simply tough love and for the best. My son is now 4 and I'm an administrator for Procter and Gamble. I just graduated last year from a 2 yr university.. My best advice for you is to show her some tough love. Make her act as the adult she was when she made your sweet grand baby. Chores and all. Her playstation days should definitely be at an all time low now that she has a 5 month old baby.. As soon as she's able to work, help her find a job and instill the characteristics of a good hard working mother in her. She'll be just fine.

Good Luck!!

i was 15 when i got pregnant and just after my 16th birthday i gave birth to my son, i was with the babys father and we lived with my mother, My mother pretty much stoped being my mother in the sense of not taking all responsability for me anymore however she became more of a best friend, She made me aware that she's there to help but if i was a mom i was now an adult i did everything a mom should do, my mom wouldn't not that i expected her to do things for me. She did help by letting me cathc a nap if she knew the baby had been up all night etc. she would buy things here or there for him but as a granparent usally does.

i think you really need to put your foot down and inform her that she made an adult decsion to have a baby and now she needs to be and adult and take care of the baby. ( if you pay for her cellphone take it away, if the playstation is yours take it away same as the computer) she has to realize that this baby is much more important the hang out with friends or playing games.

Also see if you can help her find a young mothers support group type thing so she can find friends that can relate to being a oyung mom. that way if she craves that teenage talk she can tlak to someone who has baby and the same experiences and the baby wont be tossed aside (so to say.) hoped i'ved helped

My older sister was already an adult when she had her daughter, but was just 18. She moved in with our mom for a year and they went through this too. My mom kept trying to force her to do things, and so she moved out.

Yelling, screaming, and telling her she HAS to do something is not going to help at all. If anything, it will cause her to rebel and she will leave and you may never see your grandson again.

Instead, how about you stop doing the things she won't do. Don't do the dishes for her, don't cook her dinner, don't do her laundry, don't feed the baby, don't pick him up when he's screaming (unless he is in pain/hurt/injured), don't go get him in the middle of the night when she is out, make her pay you to babysit at the SAME rate a babysitter would cost her for his age. She will have to do it herself.

This doesn't mean you should live terribly. Do your own dishes and put a lock on the cabinet with YOUR dishes in them. Do your laundry and cook yourself (and any other children, your husband) dinner and don't let her have any of it.

Is it your computer she uses to get on MySpace? Take it away or make her pay you an hourly rate for the time she wants to use it. Did she buy the playstation or did you? If you did, take it away. Does she pay for the phone? If not, take it away. She is being lazy and needs to be taught responsibility.

It doesn't even have much to do with the fact that she's a mother. A fifteen year old should not be acting that bratty anyway. You let her get this way, so now you have the tough job of forcing her to learn.

um to the one that said teenagers should not be mothers... grow up. that is how the world is today and quit judging everyone in one category. i am a wonderful teen mother. I am 19 and am pregnant again. I finished high school and college at the same time. I see alot of older moms that shouldn't be moms so please stop judging teen moms as bad moms.

Try to sit down and talk with her. She is going to have her guard up because she will feel like you are trying to take care of her daughter. tell her that she needs to pay more attention to her son. You are not the mother and it is not your responsibility to have to watch the baby all night. she quit school i am guessing so she needs to help around the house. Since she is still living under your roof you have the right to set down rules. You might take her to counseling. She is still VERY young and this is a huge responsibility for her. just be there for her and help her learn responsibility. show her the right way to be a mom.

good luck!

Lacey

::mom of chloe nichole-20 months old-got pregnant with her when i was 17::

::10 weeks pregnant with baby #2 at 19 years old::

I guess you could try and put yourself in her situation. How do you think your mother would have treated you if that happened when you were 15? If i had a 15 year old daughter who was a mother...i would tell her to be a mother and its time to grow up! She decided to concieve a child and she needs to take the correct responsibility for it..i think. Let her go out like on the weekends but let her know that her son is HERS and she needs to be his mother 24 7. Motherhood is serious and she needs to learn that. Its great that your a supportive parent and kudos to you! Good luck to you both.

You need to treat her the way you would if she didnt have a kid, expect her to do her own chores, own cleaning, own washing ect, she shoudl tidy up and look after the baby alot, you should also help her with the baby but dont try and be like a second mum to it and leave it to her, the baby should be her responsabilty

she should be able to hang out with friend but the best thing to do is say go out on night with your friends and i will baby sit and then another night her friends can hang out but she has to keep an eye on the baby and the rest of the nights she should look after the baby

shes the mother she should do it

she should help around the house and is too old for playstation, confiskate her phone if you need to, it might feel harsh but you have got to

expect her to do her class and everything else

what about the babies father?

make her take responsibility

You should expect a lot...but since she is a teen...not very much.

She still wants to experience childhood, being free. She want's to do stuff every kid does, but she needs to understand that she has a 5month old baby and has a lot more responsibility then before and that she needs to take care of him.

Her baby should come first before anything such as myspace and playstation. You need to confront her and tell her that if she loves him, she needs to take care of him more and be a responsible mother, but I understand that's hard to do at 15.