what will i do?

Just tell her she is pissing you off and enough is enough.

Mmmm, tough one. How serious are you when you say you feel like strangling her? That's the crucial question. For the sake of your end question, I'm going to assume that's a figure of speech. How about just saying, "Mary (or whatever), I'm feeling very frustrated by you continually bringing up this issue. Can we talk about it and come to some understanding? I'm letting you know I feel this way because I'm remembering all the good reasons we got married, but I'm at the end of my patience and I'm thinking of leaving you." I know it won't come out that way, but you get the gist.

I'm assuming this nagging is about something major. If it's about whose turn it is to take out the trash or why in the hell the fireplace still needs cleaning, I'd hope all the reasons you love (or once loved?) each other will take priority.

If you still can't control being pissed off, maybe it's time for a break. Go stay with family or friends, don't see each other until you can open up some actual discussion about what's wrong. If you have kids, it's even more important to keep your temper and work on the situation.

Don't threaten to leave because then she will not believe you anymore if you don't. Be honest...tell her how you feel. She is not a mindreader nor or you. Tell her you can not deal with the nagging but for so long and you are seeing the end in sight if things don't change.

Be openminded. If she is nagging there is probably a reason for it. I doubt she is just wanting to waste oxygen yelling at you. Something is on her mind. Maybe something that you won't do but should...or at least she may feel you should. Discuss the issues she has as well as your own and try to make some changes and have her to as well. A compromise if you will.

If you ignore it, it will only get worse for both you and her.

Good Luck.

LOL pretty funny answers to this one tonight. I'd say CHOKE her or give her a savage beating! I'M KIDDING!!!!!!! Marriage counseling perhaps? A lobotomy? Large two by four? Go take a walk and cool off, then come back and have a talk. If she starts nagging again go for another walk. Repeat as needed.....Eventually she will just talk to you.

Ok this might sound crazy but when she starts nagging walk up to her not saying a word and kiss her the most passionate way you can and not a quick peck let her fall into your arms and then look at her and say you were saying. She wont know what to do.

If you're at the point of strangling her...

Get out...go to your parents or best friend's home.

You guys need a mediator.

A some lessons in respect for one another. How to set boundaries and how to respect the boundaries of one another.

Remember, when you got married you both decided to share your life.

It's time to give up being selfish as well as her time to give up being selfish.

The "you" became "we."

It's not you and you. How you treat her is how you want her to treat you as well as how she treats you, should be how she wants you to treat her.

Sounds like you both are operating in the "selfish", "self-centeredness" of the before marriage propoganda.

When you walked up or down that aisle, it became "we."

Don't do to her...what you wouldn't want her to do to you and visa versa.

You need a time out and so does she.

One of you leave...until you can get a mediator.

Or set aside both your right to be right...and decide to treat one another with the same respect you want from one another.

My husband "broke" me of arguing during our first 2 years of marriage.

I have always been one to get my opinion across and sometimes not in a nice or quiet way.

He grew up with a mom who wouldn't shut the hell up during arguments with his dad, even when he would leave, she would still be talking to herself!

Instead of giving me what I want in an argument, he would clam up and not say a freaking' word.

He says you can't argue with a lamp post b/c it won't talk back to you.

Think about it. If she nags incessantly over little things, let her talk to herself.

She'll eventually get tired of the sound of her own voice and clam up.

Open the door and walk away from the madness - temporarily. Take a walk. Then come back after you've cooled down. Keep doing this. She'll soon catch on.

I would encourage you to find at least one or two people you can talk to whenever these feelings arise. Being able to talk to someone often works wonders. Find other ways to channel that energy as well. Do you have any hobbies? Maybe darts, or something will help. Good Luck!

Well tell her to leave you alone or start nagging her about something she does wrong to see how she likes being harassed about meaningless things.

Just pretend to be very interested and concerned. Agree with her, thats all she wants. That will shut her up, I know, been there, done that. As soon as he said I was right, and listened, Id drop it. Her emotions are getting the best of her and women go overboard when they think they didnt prove their point yet. Convince her that she proved hers 100%.