Why as mother's are we so quick to judge eachother negatively, rather than supporting eachother??

Some mothers do but most of the time it's envy and mothers tend to look from the outside instead of the inside and assume the wrong thing

There does seem to be competition between some mothers. We want to feel that we are doing the best for our kids and when we start comparing our children and ourselves to others it can lead to alot of self doubt or in some cases a smug overconfidence. I remember one mom in our group that was always telling the other mothers what they were doing wrong and how perfect her children were and how she spared no expense when it came to her kids. She had a lot of us doubting ourselves until a few years later her perfect children turned out to be some of the biggest trouble makers in the neighborhood and caused her nothing but grief. I really felt bad for her..Do the best you can, offer advice only if asked , dont compare your kids to others all the time because each child is different in developement and personality... and remember that what works for one person may not work for another.

ARGH! I can't stand generalizations. We don't all do it.

When I hear parents complain about someone elses child not sleeping through the night, not potty training when the books think they should be, or not learning to walk as fast as the neighbors child, I simply think - those parents are going to have a very rude awakening!!! I hope they enjoy the taste of crow!

Usually it is that you are jealous of a quality that mother has, that you do not. It is easier to judge them and say negative things then it is to let them know you admire them for something, because then you have to admit a fault.