I lost my trust with my ex girlfriend, what can I do to regain it back?

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My girlfriend does not want to speak with me anymore. She insist that she has lost her trust in me. I have done every possible thing to regain our relationship back, no luck. I have told her lies in the past during the beginning of our relationship, she also told me lies, about age, child from another relationship, and she knew I was lying, except at the time I did not confess, until recently, 4 months later she now brings this up and does not want to speak with me ever again. After the confession 4 months later, why now. I have not lied to her since the confession. Please help.

Update:

Sorry, I might have miss phrased. She lied about her age, but confessed a week later. I did not confess about my lies until 4 months later. I feel guilty and I am the one that needs to regain her trust in me. Thank you all for sharing.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Give her time to think things through.

itspink22@sbcglobal.net · Answer

When you lose someone trust getting it back is like when your working and want a raise and when your in school trying to get a good grade. U have to earn it, she's just upset that you lied and being lied to is something that hurts and it makes u wonder what else they've lied to u about.

But you said she lied too so it's the pot calling the kettle black, did u remind her that she too lied and that u still forgave her about it?

Well u can either keep waiting for her to get past this or you can go to her and tell her that u have tried over and over to get  her to forgive you but she's refusing so until she comes around then your gonna do whatever you want see ya it's been real

Do u think this is just an excuse to breakup because she's trying to get with another guy?

I mean since she lied and feels it's ok but get mad at you thats not fair so move on and let her know about it

Good Luck

Lun · Answer

Losing trust early in any relationship is detremental. Women, or anyone has a hard time building up trust that someone lost. Seeing a professional might help, and if that is not an option taking a different approach like finding new ways to rebuild trust. Rehashing the past is a sign that she might not be over what has transpired in the past.

@/*RUBY*&#92;@ · Answer

I would have guessed that this was "teenager" stuff, until I read "child from another relationship" then I knew it wasn't teenagers, it's immature adults talking! if she lied to you that much, why do you want her back? it sounds like a messed up relationship anyway, go find a new girlfriend.

girlie123 · Answer

wow! she lied about child from another relationship, how did she do that? you didnt know she had a child and you were dating her? wow! well, if she doesnt want to try no matter how hard you try, she will not want to be with her... 

you can still try and talk with her say "listen, i know we had a rough start and we were not really truthful with each other but i really care about you and i want to try and see if we can be honest and if this works out" if she refuses, what can you do??? just move on you are not attached to her in any way..you are not married..you do not have kids with her.. etc. so theres nothing to worry about! good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

What you need to do is sit down with her and be very calm and talk to her and tell her....it's better to get it over with now rather than later becuz you will feel guilty for a long time if u do not come out and tell her....and the chances are that she is gonna be really pissed if u do not tell her soon..the key is be gentle and calm with her

Anonymous · Answer

Dude, get a better girlfriend, wake up.

Anonymous · Answer

meet her at some place and talk to her
meet her at some place private and talk to her and tell her that you can be a better boyfriend then you were before.




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