I think I sound offensive when I speak?

well you are asking this question which probably means that you are bothered from this.

anywyas if you find that this is effecting your relationships with others then yes you should change it

how? try and be polite, modestness helps alot :)

you know if you do this all the time(being rude) people would think that this is it from you. that you have nothing else to show

and am sure you have more :) since you are interested in changing . always keep space for people to see the real you or atleast be interested in seeing it :)

Confidence is one thing but confrontational and argumentative is quite another. Think before you speak and be aware of your body language as well. You are asking the question so you must believe you need to make a change. Since you haven't offered any specific examples, it's tough to elaborate but I would seek whatever help you can to turn this around.

When you speak make sure you watch your tone of voice.

When you give a speech have notes on what your saying and make sure to keep it short and watch your body language. Relax, your doing a great job and don't worry so much about sounding rude cuz most of the time your really not rude even thought you think you are

so much of it has to do with your tone of voice. while you do need to be careful and choose your words carefully, there's no need to sugar coat everything. Some things just need to be said, and will be recieved uncomfortably because the subject itself is uncomfortable. But your tone of voice, can always put someone at ease. Try practicing with a good friend. Certain tones you may think are confident, may sound negative to others. Have you friend point them out to you.

some people see confidence as arrogance.

when you know you are right and it it will be to your personal benefit to speak out and be heard (like in your job when you have ideas that you know are good) it is ok to "blow your own horn. God knows on-one else will speak up for you.

However when you are there at someone elses request because they WANT you there you dont NEED to be that forceful to be recognized. thats the time for humilty and and reserved behavior

Try smiling when you speak. Not a crazy fake smile, just a small smile. It really does change the tone of your voice, believe it or not. It's also good to do for phone calls.

It is very annoying when people come off as you describe. You may sound too opinionated or argumentative even though you don't intend to. You could try not talking so much and just listening to what people have to say, then continue to talk on their terms. Or have a softer tone that is not direct.

It would be easier to answer if we had an example, but you might just try thinking about things and how they sound before you say them. If you realize that you come across as rude or offensive, that's the first step toward fixing it. Just think of a nicer, less abrasive way to say something before you say it.

It sounds like you would probably recieve better advice from a close friend. Someone who can hear your speech, see your facial expressions, and body movement and tell you why your speech seems abrasive. It'd be much easier to tell in person.

try to be less aggressive...use less argumentation and let the others have their turn! :-)

It's importent to establish a cosy backgroud in conversations, if you are over confident you will probably scare or embarrass your interlocutor....

MAybe you are just in the "hurry" of socializing and compare your mind with other people, but if you'd use a lower tone, and less "final statements" people wouldn't feel you as an "offensive" person ( you probably aren't).

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