My friends baby seems to have problems...?

the Dr won't always bring it up. our pediatrician actually kept telling me that our son would catch up when I had a feeling there was more to it than him just being a little slow. they may have finally caught it, but much later than me(since I'm the mom) however, with new mom's, this is a very touchy subject. you 1st might want to think about how good a friend is she? can you tell her anything without her taking offense? if you feel like you can present it in a way that's not "my kid can do all this, why can't yours?", then you may be able to talk about it. maybe she has brought it up to the Dr & they say she will catch up, as mine did.

maybe say something like, at our checkup the other day, the Dr asked me if DD could do (fill in the blank) and I thought that was weird. did your pediatrician ask you if your DD could do that? can she?

or you could try something like, I've noticed (name) has her tongue out alot. has her Dr said anything about it or if its normal?

or even, did (name's) Dr say when you should let him/her know if she's still not crawling? I read somewhere the other day they should be crawling by 8mos, but my pediatrician said not to even worry about it till after 10mos. just wondering what yours said.

those might give you a feel from what she says about how she feels about talking to you about it.

Good Luck! (hope all that makes sense)

Does she laugh? Does she roll over? Sit with support of her hands? Grasp toys? Reach for toys? Babble? Put toys or fingers in her mouth? Smile when being smiled at? Anticipate being picked up by mom?

Honestly, I would be very careful about bringing anything up right now. Mainly because there is probably little a pediatrician or specialist will do at this point unless there is a very obvious delay. I certainly wouldn't be suggesting any kind of specific disorder such as autism.....it is too early to tell. Bringing it up now, before any medical professional would be willing to explore it, would only cause her stress and concern.

If there does seem to be a very obvious delay, and the baby is consistently not meeting developmental milestones, then maybe you can approach it in a very sensitive way. But if you just "feel" like something is missing, and you can't quite figure it out, then I would not say anything at this point.

Just my opinion.

I'd give it another 3 months. ALL normal developing babies should be active and sitting up by themselves by nine-ten months....most are crawling. If her daughter is not more active and/or sitting up by herself by ten months, then I would approach her about it.

The best way to approach someone about something like that is by asking her if SHE is concerned or if the baby's doctor is concerned about the fact that she is not overly active. At 6 months old, some babies are still easily soothed and quite happy to just sit like a sack of taters and bubble away, some aren't! You really need to give this a few more months and then you'll have something to go on. And if she is an observant mother (I hope she is) she'll be addressing the issue herself at 10 months. If it goes to a year and this baby is behind still, and you know FOR SURE that nothing has been said or done, then you really should approach her or someone close to her about it. If you don't say something, you may find that you regret it later just for the sake of maybe hurting her feelings. She's your friend, it will be ok.

All babies are different, and some babies are alot less active than others. I wouldnt say anything about the childs development so i did not offend the parents.

I would casually ask what she thinks of her pediatrician or how the child is accepting her shots. If she cries after immunizations or something random like that. Just to know that she is taking the child to regular checkups

Pediatricians check development so if she is taking the child to required checkups, they will catch it!

Don't feel guilty! I remember when I'd first gotten married and two friends of mine got pregnant. They were both young and unmarried, and even though I wasn't trying to conceive myself, I still had feelings resembling jealousy and I felt as if they should feel blessed to have healthy pregnancies and families that support them. Just realize that this is totally normal, and in my opinion, you have every right to feel this way! If you really care about her, talk to your friend about the first time she felt the baby move or when she heard it's heartbeat. Hopefully talking about it in such an intimate way will bring out feelings you'd appreciate, instead of her selfishness. Otherwise, just avoid her and focus on yourself. According to your name, you're getting married soon! You'll have babies of your own when the time is right, and believe in that with all your heart!

not a lot of 6 months old are mobile- not all babies are the same and im sure you dont see her all teh time- i know my son until recently would jsut sit on my lap all the time because he wasnt scare just kinda shy- now at a year hes all over the place. i dont think it's your place to say anything especailly if nothing is wrong- im sure shee would know better than you anyhow- if my friend sais something like that, im not sure i would hang out with them anymore

Keep your mouth shut.

Even if there is something wrong -- you don't want to be the one to bring it to the mother's attention.

She will always be angry with you.

(and most likely she would be in denial anyway .. and it will just dent your friendship) ..

I'm sure she is taking her child for regular Doctor's visits -- the Doctor will tell her if her child is 'behind' on milestones.

This picture is adorable! People, you don't need to respond so rudely by saying, "keep your mouth shut". Seriously, you are very rude.

i wouldn't say anything. I'm sure she has noticed that your daughter is doing more than hers. She is most likely already concerned about it.

i think you should say something if there is something wrong with that baby you could get it help before the condition may worsen and you may give it a brighter future im only saying this because i love little kids and i would do anything to help those who are suffering of diseases its just sad to see them have these problems because one they didnt have a very long life and they are already experiencing problems so do the right thing and tell her.