Teenaged daughter is a little snot. How to keep from figuratively wringing her neck before she is 14?

lol, I honestly feel sorry for you. I am friends with some little snots, I feel so sorry for their parents. You gotta remember though, it's geneticaly encoded into every human being to be a bit snotlike in their teen years. Some just have more predomenant DNA strains of it :D

It's the litte snots of the world that get the good kids in trouble

P.S. taking her stuf away or punishing her won't really work, it just make us kids resent you and get even more angry, something that does work without taking stuff away, and this was used on me, tell her that she has a certain number of screw ups available to her a week. if she goes over the amount, she doesn't get her laundry done that week by you. this made me shape up simply because I hate doing laundry and I eventualy need some cleane clothes. plus, even i I hate it it did teach me how to do laundry, a good life skill :D

Haha. I don't have any teenagers but not too long ago I was one myself. (Currently 22). My dad was a single parent and my brother was a "lttle snot". Anything dad did to get him "back in line" wouldn't work. Yelling at him didn't work, grounding him didn't work. So what he decide to do was make him do push-ups. We could be in the middle of Wal-mart and if my brother did or said something he shouldn't have dad would make him "Drop and give him 20" right in front of everyone. Kind of cured him. As for me....I realized that the older I got, the smarter my parents became. Hint: I'm 22 and divorced.

This is normal behavior for this age....I realize that doesn't help much....but you aren't alone in the boat...

So much depends on personalities of both the mother and the daughter.....if you are fortunate enough to have a mild natured child....you are blessed.....

This, by far, is the most difficult period of the parenting experience....I encourage you to remain strong (God knows you will need to). Give her the guidance and direction she needs to successfully maneuver through this period....and

Remember you are her Mother...not her friend......

When she 25, she will be amazed at how smart her mom is....

I am 18 and I told my mom the other day "I am really surprised you didn't smother me with a pillow when I was about 13-15". I was hell, looking back on it now I was being an ungrateful little brat. I know it sucks but eventually it will pass and you will enjoy spending time with your daughter.

OK, my kids were teens recently and I can only tell you what worked for me. People tell me I am very lucky to have the kids I have, and luck does play a large part, as does the quality of the friends they associate with. Try to get her involved with people who are doing "great' things, especially things that she can relate to. I always tried to speak to them as though they were adults. I did not speak at them, even if I was upset. I spoke to them quietly, when there was time to have a real conversation. I asked them follow up questions, and always listened as respectfully as possible. I told them stories from my life to illustrate points. I have watched in alarm as my friends complain about their kids in front of them as though they are not there, and punish them without explanation as though they were several years younger than their age, My kids did some crazy things, but survived adolescence with good values and a sense of humor. Hang in there and model what you want from your daughter. She is listening and watching, even if it does not seem so to you today.

If she is ungreatful than take all of her toys (ie. cell phone and other goodies) out of her room and put her to doing chores. As she improves give her stuff back a little bit at a time...cell phone last!

well sit her down and tell her this is how things are gonna be... ground her and dont let her have what she wants... that stuff really works... i am 16 and growing up we didnt have alot of money so i nevr got a whole lot... still dont... so im grateful for the things i get

Haha, this made me laugh out loud...

I'm 19, I put my parents through the same thing, hopefully it will pass in a year or so...

Goodluck!

my opinion:

I cannot stand it when parents ask questions like these, complaining ( yes, your complaining and you know it ) about their kid(s)/teen(s). If you cannot handle having a child, who is eventually going to go through their teen years and sometimes be a handful, then you never should have gotten pregnant. If you are frustrated, then go talk to her. Don't complain to complete strangers on the internet about your daughter. It also irritates me when I hear other parents saying ' just be firm, don't give in! teach her her lesson! ' - Your teen isn't a dog. Talk to your daughter, don't run into her room and complain and yell.

just be firm with her, if she won't allow you to. then punish her as you see fit.