What is everybody's opinion about this? Please Read!?

I think that you each should do what is best for you. If you need to morn that way then do it, but don't force him to do it to. Let him morn how he needs to. Maybe it is something you can do alone privately.

My wife had three miscarriages and now we have 3 kids ages 10, 9 and 7. Most doctors are not concerned with miscarriages until you have had 3 because miscarriages are so common. Hopefully your doctor will take a closer look now and help you guys determine what is wrong. Then you will have all the kids you want!

As far as Mother's Day and Father's Day my wife and I just decided to continue to enjoy time with our Mother and Father just as we had been all along. After we had kids then we started getting each other presents on the respective days. The older the kids get the more they love giving the presents to us on Mother's Day and Father's Day.

Good luck to you guys, I pray everything works out for you!

Maybe for him it is difficult so dont push the idea of celebrating fathers day onto him. I think the idea of you celebrating mothers day is wonderful if that is what you want to do, but make sure it is a good time, not a sad time, even if you are reflecting. It may be hard to do but why dont the two of you just go out to a nice lunch or dinner and go see a movie or do something you enjoy doing together, that way it is a celebration for you, time spent together, a lot less hard for him because it is just like any other date, and most importantly a joyful way of getting around what could be a hard holiday sitting at home.

first of all i am Really sorry to hear that. and I'm with you about not forgetting, i think that forgetting it the simple way out or a weird awkward and hard situation. Your always going to remember and it is never good to keep things bottled up in side. you should celebrate mothers/Fathers day but don't dwell on the past just acknowledge those kids, and move forward.

Well, as sad as the situation is, you really are not a mom. I think celebrating is kind of morbid... and sad. Probably more sad for those that love you, to see you do that to yourself. My mom had 6 miscarriages before having me - they are incredibly common!

Basically, I don't celebrate Valentine's Day if I don't have a bf - even though I used to have one.

However, this is totally up to you. It just sounds like you would be torturing yourself by doing so. I'm sorry you've had to go through this. I really am.

Of course you will never forget, no should you be expected to. However your husband did not have a chance to actually bond with the unborn child that was growing in you, so his loss although painful would not be as significant. Even if you do not celebrate it, the memories will always be there especially on those special days. So it is up to you to decide, that decision is far too personal for any one else to make.

Firstly dont get sad. Whatever is done. Is done! God always does something for our well being. Dont be in a feeling that you dont have any children. Everyone are your children probably even I am your sweet child. If no one wishes you then I will wish you. "HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY" mom. If you would like to have some small companion with you then why dont you adopt a child. By this even that child will get love of the parents which he might not get from someone.

why celebrate a miscarriage, you cant be expected to forget, but i dont think you should celebrate mothers and fathers days, you have your own days to think of when you lost the babies, i hope things work out for you in the future, and so sorry to hear of your losses

We lost our child at 26 weeks in November, 3rd miscarrage. My wife was and still is sad about the expierence. I have been able to deal with it differently then she has. Obviously she is the one who felt the baby everyday inside her. We are not going to celebrate Mothers day /Fathers day, because of bringing up the memories. I bought her a circle of life necklace and had the baby's name engraved on top, where only we knew where it was. She likes to wear it on days when she is sad.

This is just the way we do it...

Both of you are obviously having a hard time dealing with this. Honestly, if I were you, I would either do one of two things:

1) Don't celebrate because it will upset your husband

2) Celebrate, but do something away from your husband, so that he doesn't know and isn't reminded. Don't include him in any way.

People deal differently, and he needs to deal by not being reminded. You're hurting, but you will cause him EVEN MORE pain if you keep reminding him. But I am sypmathetic with both of you.

First off, I'm sorry to hear about your loss.

I don't think there is anything wrong with women who miscarry to want to celebrate mother's day-however, this may be painful for your husband. He obviously is having problems coping with this and he really needs to talk to someone about this.

It may not be so much that he wants to forget as much as bringing it up is just simply too painful for him to deal with.

My advice to you is that this is kinda like walking on eggshells which you shouldnt have to do. It comes down to a disagreement or no disagreement. I think he needs to get some help letting this out, he doesnt need to keep it bottled up inside because that doesnt solve anything.

Good luck to you both.