My sister has luekemia, but she hasn't told Dad she has it, as they don't get along. Should I tell him?

I am being tested for lukemia as you read and I have yet to tell my parents because some current issues we are experiencing. I told my sister because I trust her much more than anyone. I haven't even told my daughter.

Don't think that I am saying that your parents shouldn't know. On the contrary, if I was to come up positive for it, I will definitely tell my parents and my daughter. I'm just not telling anyone right now because they don't need to worry about something, that in my case, may not be true.

You only have one biological set of parents and whether you get along with them or not, they have (most parents anyway) have always taught you to be honest. Even though both may not 'like' each other per say, a parent has a love for their child like no other. Additionally, if she needs a marrow transplant, any 'normal' parent would donate to their child if they were a compatible match.

With that, in addition to others mentioned, the father should know.

Now, as for whose responsibility it is to tell the father, I will say that it "is not" yours. It's your sister's situation and it is on her to tell your father if she desires. Know that you can't make her do it, but you can sit down and possibly explain the reasons why she should tell him (and your mom if she doesn't know). If it takes a couple of conversations, have them, but by all means, let her make the decision. If she wants you to tel him, then by all means, then do it.

If you tell him without her knowing, your father could get upset and go off on her (and whoever else knows) out of concern and then your sister and all else involved could resent you for pretty much, 'going behind her back' and telling.

Know that there is some point that he will have to know. Maybe your sister will want you to tell him then.

All I can say for the both of you is don't wait until it's too late. You don't want to regret letting things go for too long and something ends up happening. Who knows, maybe this can be the thing that will get them to mend their fences?

Regardless, be honest with her and talk it out, then go from there. That will show that you love and respect her.

Yes, u should tell both of your parents even though they are divorced. Eventually they'll find out. I

t's better that they know it, so your sister can be treated.

Don't wait until it's too late.

But Do talk to your sister 1st and tell her that your parents need to know about it, let her know that everyone care for her.

Luekemia is serious and should be treated right away.

Good Luck to your sister!

I think that you should sit down and talk to your sister and let her know how you feel then ask her if she would like you to tell him then I think that you should let her know even though her and your dad don't get along her dad still loves her and cares about her. I think that he has the right to know

I would sit down with the father and sister (free from distractions) not letting either of them know why your sitting down with them, and tell them they need to work things out, life is short and precious and meant for loving. And i would ask the sister that if she has anything to say now is the time and look her in the eyes, she will know what you mean and she will decide for her self if she should tell him, if she doesn't then leave it alone, its her responsibility to make that decision...but just give her the opportunity to decide if she wants to tell him.

Good luck and God bless your sister

I wouldn't. This is something that your sister needs to tell your Dad. The right thing is for him to know. But, it is really up to your sister. You don't want to loose her trust.

Talk to your sister and respect her wishes. I know its hard to be in the middle, but allow her to tell him when she is ready. Sometimes we try to make situations better by stepping in, but that's a really sensitive area and its better to let them brace themselves to share that with him, especially since they don't get along.

She may be afraid of how he will respond. His attitude may totally change, and he will be nice towards her, or he may be just plain nasty to her. So, let her make her own decision and respect it.

You can explain to her why you feel he needs to know, but in the end, its her ultimate choice.

hmm. she should probably tell him. But if I was your dad, I would rather know, even if I had to hear it from you.

He will probably have a lot of regrets if she died before they could make up. If you tell him, then he may take steps to heal whatever wounds have been afflicted.

I would talk to my sisiter, and see what she had planned. and then I would be honest, and tell her that if she doesn't tell him, I will.

u should wait and see wat ur sister wants to do. it needs to be up to ur sister since she is the one that has the disease. talk to her and see if she wants u to talk ur guys dad about it. otherwise right now she doesn't feel comfortable telling ur dad yet. she might wait till the right time has come to talk to him about it. so i would say leave it up to her to. unless she tells u to tell ur dad then i would hold off and see wat she does first. srry ur sister has luekemia!

good luck!!!!!!!!!

Talk to her and let her know how important is to tell them something like this..and you feel she really needs to tell him...tell her that you dont feel right knowing this and not being able to tell him or let him know...if she still doesnt then Yes i would tell him

No, it's not your place to share her private medical information. You can encourage her to let him know, or ask her permission to tell him, but you should abide by her decision.

If and when she's in imminent danger of dying, then you can tell him so he make his goodbyes.