Is my boyfriend being selfish or am I overreacting? Desperate for help please!?

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My boyfriend and I both have important qualification exams coming up, however I recently found out from a home pregnancy test that I'm 3 weeks pregnant (which I really don't want!) I had a bit of a nervous breakdown and became completely hysterical and he told me firstly that I was wrong and that I couldn't be pregnant, and then told me to take the test again. He then said that he was leaving to go do some revision for the exams. I told him I knew they were important but that I really needed him at that moment and asked him to stay with me for a few more hours and help me through it (I was still sobbing at this point), and we ended up arguing and he said that as long as I didn't understand how he felt, he was going to leave, and he did. But surely it's him not understanding how I feel? I'm so confused. I don't know if I should apologise, leave it, or expect him to apologise. I don't know who's in the wrong. What should I do?

. · Accepted Answer

Different people handle stress differently. He's scared. He doesn't want you to be pregnant any more than you want to, but his way of handling it is to get away from the situation. It may not be the best choice, but try to understand why he may feel that way.

On top of exams, he's got a possible pregnancy to think about. Not saying you don't also, but the situation doesn't affect you both in the same way.

He should probably apologize for your feelings being hurt that he needed to get away when you wanted him there. He shouldn't have to apologize for desiring to step away from the situation and deal with it in his own way.

I hope things work out for the best for you all.

Anonymous · Answer

yes his exams are important but not more important than the mess you are in, you are preg. because of something happened there not by air ...

At least he can do is be on your side, he is wrong and you don't need to apologize, if you do you are being brainless woman and i don't think you are!!!!!

Think about what you want do with the child, and decide fast as you said you got exams comping up.

you can't undo baby thing, relax your mind take a decision which will be good for you,  your child, and your future.

i think at this point you must not think about your bf as he is more like running away from the situation.

Anonymous · Answer

WOW. im sorry, but all i know that ive been there, and i need someone for comfort. it really scary and it changes the way you thing completely. I know his exam is important, but he needs to be with you, u didnt make yourself pregnant, so he should be apart of it as well. that just shows that he cant be there for you.

Anonymous · Answer

You have done nothing wrong except to fall in love and get impregnated by a selfish, self centered jerk.
Apologize to him????? NO, you have done nothing wrong. Will he apologize to you, probably not.
Sorry but, perhaps you should think about leaving this jerk.,

Anonymous · Answer

i agree with the first responder. your bf just got scared and just tried to fing an excuse to get out. you are not in the wrong. he doesnt know how you feel. instead of crying to him, tell him straight out about how you feel. just give it some times, it will work out.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, he got scared or something.  He was making up some BS to get out of there.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe he just needed time to process this but I think that he is being really selfish!!!!

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