Oooh! Just read an interesting article online. Do you think black women get married?

I was married for twenty years to my husband until his death in 2005.

My Mom and Dad were married for over 50 years until his death.

I know a lot of couples who have been married for a long time to the same person. We are not all living together with out being married.

It all depends on the two people involved in the relationship whether it will last or not.

Wouldn't you rather be alone than be in a relationship that you were unhappy ?

In a sense, I do believe the statements are true. Black women are very independent and instead of waiting for "mr. right" to come along, they begin to build futures for themselves. We are not willing to "settle" just for the sake of saying that we are married. So when a potential spouse comes along, he has to bring more to the table (besides extra baggage). For a long time, society has tried to force women to make a choice between having a family and having a career. Most women are career oriented (though they still want to raise a family). And I think that intimidates some men. So while men are on the immaturity kick, the women are working towards a prosperous future. Not to mention that we've seen black women before us who were forced to provide for themselves and their children because the man wasn't present. These women did what they had to do, so we see that we can have all of those things without necessarily having a husband. I already have a career, own a home, etc. which I obtained on my own. I want to have children soon and would prefer to have them within the institution of marriage. While I do believe in the traditional family structure, I realize that it may not happen. I want to marry, but I'm not gonna rush into it. Like most career oriented women, I want to get a good return on my investment.

That's interesting. It's not true. I just got married. Neither of us have children and we are in our in early 20s (23 and 25, respectively). Everything depends on the individuals, but there is a lower rate of married black women than other women.

Some men are immature no matter what the race . If this is true I think Black women are very smart .

I have heard this before. But it was more along the lines that black women thought they were better off without their "possible husbands" in their lives. They wanted children, but not the problems their "mates" brought with them. They viewed their "mates" more as a liability than an asset.

It's hard to argue with that logic.

Well that article made some good points! My solution? Marry someone outside your race!

Unsure, although If it is true than black women are very smart.

I think its fairytale all together. I think its to much effort on black anything. Would rather see the funding goto cancer awareness or something beneficial.

True. I may be an 8th grader, but its true!