tips of how to move past an abusive relationship?

NO! if someone is treating u like this than u should get out now! U deserve more respect then he is giving u! And sorry but i do not really understand the whole friends thing but if they are being mean to u 2 u should just forget them and move on!!!! BE STRONG!!!! u should get what u want and if u break u with the guy he will realize what he lost!

I've been in your shoes; it's a very hard place to be and sometimes even seems harder to move past. Try doing things for yourself to make you feel better. Abusers make you feel as if you aren't worth anything; the abuse is your fault and nobody else could ever possibly love you. It's a lie; a BIG FAT lie. You are an even better person for walking away from the situation; for realizing you are better than how you were being treated. You do deserve better but you have to love yourself before somebody else can really love you. Find the things about you that you like and make a list; whenever you are feeling bad or like it may have been your fault; look at the list. Be strong and your future will be much better than your past. Good luck.

My wife was in something like this also, a pedophile convinced her that he was her only hope at ever being a worthwhile person. She still believes that a few years out and with someone who loves her. She actually nearly sacrificed our relationship for him.

My wife, Rachel, had some friends still like this guy after they found out he molested her (she was 14 when all this started, he was nearly 30)...she had to let those friendships go because she was having trouble enough getting over the stuff he brainwashed her into thinking (like sexuality was the only way to get someone to love you) and her friends were communicating some of those things to her. One even told her she was overreacting...even though the guy molested her and forced her to do sexual things against her will.

So get rid of the friends...and try to get over the guy. Never let yourself think it was your fault or he's a good guy. I'm sure there are some good aspects to him, but you need to not even recognize those right now. It's too easy for you to fall back into that relationship or something like that. Part of what you need to do also is to be more confident in yourself, don't let people tell you you're wrong. I mean, realize when you are, but don't just let people push you around.

This might not make a bunch of sense, but the biggest thing is just cutting off all ties with him and avoiding future relationships like that. One of the most healing things to my wife was just time. It took time of her being told by me that she was a good person and that I'd love her no matter what for her to even begin to start believing it. It took over a year for her to even fully admit to herself she was abused (before she knew it in her mind, but didn't feel it...if that makes sense).

You might not move on until you find his replacement who could be your real dream guy. Your real dream guy wouldn't be abusive. The last guy wasn't your dream guy. He was just a guy that had some of the things you were looking for in your dream guy. I think everyone heals at their own rate and moves on. Some try and rush it which can usually just lead to more problems. All you can do really is give it time.

dude seriously what ever the guy was he put you in pain..you know what that means? true love wouldnt do that...a true guy will take care of you at all times...i take care of my gf so good and that is one reason why she loves me so much...just move on with life and forget about him...you sound like a good girl thats been trapped in a bad relationship with the bad guy...there are soo many good guys out there just be single for a while and start getting busy...start watching a show, or maybe listen to more music, go out with friends and bla bla...keep it busy and you will eventually forget about him...god bless you

Love yourself......pick out all the great qualities you have that you would like for your next boyfriend to appreciate

Tell yourself that you will never be the victim again, because you deserve better than that

best wishes

i am also a survivor of abuse....and so are you :)

first of all. don't blame yourself. you can't say that you pushed him to be abusive. if he does get mad, why couldn't he just have yelled @ you instead of getting abusive? you didn't make him hit you so definitely don't blame yourself.

if you're friends still like him... that's their opinions. dont let your relationship with him affect his relationships with your friends.

you can still move on by maybe getting yourself involved with other activities (not sure how old you are). try to make new friends so it won't be super hard to leave your old friends.

been there! That is normal abuser behavior - they make you feel that it was your fault. Just keep telling yourself that you deserve better. Get a new set of friends and go out, you will meet someone better.

Wow, this was a tough one, but the best thing to do is GET OUT NOW! You can't go on your whole life in this relationship, because eventually, it will emotionally or physically kill you.

Get hammered, ****** up, forget and live or Read the bible helps alot, get new friends that have been through what you have been through