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I was hurt so I decided to ignore the source of the pain completely. Then he talked to me and I was mean. Help
I have a friend. Let's call him Dan. Anyways, Dan and I were fairly decent friends. I don't really have that many good friends. I guess I have somewhat of a trust issue. I don't let that many people too close. I know tons of people, but I wouldn't consider a bunch of them to be my good friend. I really trully considered him a good friend. Back to the story. He got a new girlfriend and we stopped talking as much, which is totally understandable. New girlfriend...heck, he needs to spend more time talking to her then me. I wasn't upset or jealous in the least, I was fine with just talking to him ocassionally. Actually, it was easier then talking every day. But then I found out that he was moving across the country and hadn't told me. So my feelings were really hurt. I mean, it's not like we hang out all of the time or anything. It was just the fact that he didn't feel inclined to tell me. So I ignored him for a week or so. Then the other day he started talking to me over AIM.
My other friend told him that I was upset with him for not telling me that he was moving so he told me "hey...im moving" and I got really really mad. When I get hurt I have the tendency to get angry instead of cry. So I got really angry. And I've been really stressed about a lot of things lately. This was just the icing on the cake. So I got mad and said a few things to him that were horribly awful. I feel really bad for overreacting like that. Like I said, we hardly every see eachother as it is. It was just the fact that he didn't tell me that hurt me. I said sorry and he said it's fine then I had to go. But I want to tell him why I was so upset. Is that a good idea to let him know I am sincerely sorry instead of just saying it (because I really hurt him) because it's polite? Or is it searching for self gratification to make myself feel better? What should I do?
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- ♥Lv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
It can be really hurtful when someone who you consider really close doesn't tell you something important. Believe me, I've been there. I felt really betrayed and hurt. I found myself asking myself, "Did this person ever consider me a friend? Or was I just deluding myself?"
Luckily, I didn't say anything that I would regret later like you, however although I tried to hide my feelings I'm sure my anger came across in subtle ways. It's good that you apologized to him, but whether or not you should explain why you were so upset depends on the kind of person he is. If he always cares a lot about you and tries hard not to make you upset, telling him might be a good thing to do. If you do decide to tell him, you should do it in person.
