my 21 year old friend constantly moans about nothing and acts like an old woman?

Sometimes with people like that, there's nothing you can do. I had a friend like that and we were in a similar situation, where we hated the whining so we just wouldn't invite her to places?

Well we got tired of it, and finally all sat her down and said we want to hang out with her, but she's got to stop talking about people behind their backs and complaining about stuff all the time.

She took it really hard and stopped talking to us, and spread rumors about a number of us behind our backs, etc.

I think it's best you just be honest with her. She will either change for the better or get out of your life completely.

There's little or no difference between a 31 year old and a 27 year old. There's a huge difference between 21 and 17. A lot of things change in those few years. To me, it's not about the age difference, or the sexual preference. It's about being 17. It's because a 17 year old shouldn't have sex, and a 21 year old should have sex. I will give you that 17 is on the edge. I don't know Wisconsin laws, but in most states 17 is of legal consent. She's old enough to know what she's doing, and your not doing emotional harm. Legally, I think your OK. Morally, it's kind of a tie. In a tie, I'd give the nod to the mother. Mother knows best.

I do think your friend is in some form of depression, more likely than not, a very minor issue which is fortunate. It seems as if she is pointing out little things that could maybe make her feel better with herself by doing it.

That is only my opinion though.

I would go about this in different ways depending on your personality. Because I feel I am outspoken and confident, I would approach her and talk to her, but if you fell this could exacerbate the problem, I would just remain silent until the wind blows over.

If you really are her friend you should be able to talk to her about her moaning...some people get into the habit of moaning and are not even aware they doing it...when I get together with my friends for a chat or a night out , it is a rule that we don't talk about negative things ..when we go on Holiday with won't talk about our problems because we are there to enjoy ourselves..but we do make time to talk to each other if there is a problem in our lives...maybe you could try that with her...but don't cut her out because of this..just talk to her

You could tell her the truth, that you're sick of hearing her moan about stuff that really isn't important and could she please find something else to talk about.

She'll be gutted, of course, and probably sink into a depression, but depression can be a bit of a wake-up call and people do come out of it with a more positive frame of mind.

Some people do just moan all the time, it could just be she hasn't much to say so she is making cov or she just wants attention. Take her to either really quite places like a cinema or really busy places where she can't be heard!

To be a good friend is to be sincere and be truthful to each other. tell her that everyone loves her so much and indeed do want to prolong a relationship but she need to know that you all in the group will be much prefer if she stop being a 'moaner'. Do tell her how much you care for her but this is what she should see in your eyes level.

Is it a trick she is playing? From the web?

I know people who decide they are going to be a nuisance, and the methods are too similar though they don't know each other.

tell her to get a hobby lighten up and stop acting like an old woman she was most proberly brought up with her grandma

Nobody likes a party pooper.