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Bored in OUR relationship?

I have been with my boyfriend for eight years, recently we have become bored. It is a rough time with money, and the bills are piling up, so I know that this is part of the problem. We can't afford to go out so we are stuck inside which leads to an agreement. We have always been the on the go type of people so this sucks. Because of everything our sex life has also died. We both want to have sex it's just it has been so long and we are so bored that I don’t know what to do. Does anyone have any ideas for FREE things to do and how to possibly get back in the habit of having sex. (We both are so used to not having it nether one of us knows how to bring it up) PLEASE HELP

Update:

For one I am a Law student so money is hard and he has just changed careers and we have been so strapped for money that is the reason we are not married. WE DO WANT TO GET MARRIED just can’t. There are issues such as insurance and so on. Eight years is a long time and we do not want to just throw in the towel especially when we have been through so much and love each other. It is just a habit that we cant get out of

Update 2:

It's not just about SEX we want to have fun too

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  • 1 decade ago
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    eight years is a long time, maybe it is time for the next step in your relationship. but the money problem can lead to many problems in a relationship so if you like the outdoors then go for a romantic walk durning the night or go outside and seat under the stars and moon-that usually brings people to the romantic feeling and it doesn't something to them. have a romantic dinner at home and watch a romantic movie together and cuddle. Change yalls normal sex and spice it up like take a bubble bath together or draw on each other with water proof markers-thats all I really can think of. Good luck

  • 1 decade ago

    OK, get creative!

    Invite the neighbors over for game night -- ball game on TV or charades or cards or set up a scavenger hunt. You can even ask your guests to bring an unusual idea for a mixer.

    As far as the bedroom goes, take it somewhere else. Try meeting him just inside the front door in a sexy garter and half bra, maybe even heavy make-up and heels or nothing. You might try climbing into the shower with him and er ah dropping something.

    You are the one asking for help; so, you may have to take the initiative. You might even rent an X rated movie and just wait for the right moment to start it. How long has it been since you have played strip poker together or since you have done a strip tease for him?

    A moonlight walk through the park can be very romantic, especially if you whisper to him that you have forgotten a key piece of clothing. You get the idea.

    The two of you have been together for eight years for crying out loud... just think back a few years to what sparked things then; but, don't waste time - act quickly before it's too late.

  • 4 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I think it's a good thing you're not having sex. Sex before marriage s not healthy anyway. Learned the hard way.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Frist you have to put some excitement back in your life ack out something me and my bf use to play doctor and it was great because he always gave me the shots if you know what i mean

  • 1 decade ago

    I suggest finding the sexiest dress you have and one night maybe when he's not there get into a sexy outfit and try to look as sexy as possible then call him and ask him to come over and when he gets there act and talk as sexy as possible and maybe that would

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    It sounds like you are beyond a sex fix.

    Move on. Change is scary but mostly it brings us new and exciting things.

  • 1 decade ago

    8 years and no marriage and of course you too are bored. You aren't on to the stages that life holds you are stuck in the stalemate of playing house.

    Time to move on.

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