what do u do if your boyfriends gonna die?

If you are on the level about this, my heart goes out to you.

My thoughts on cancer are not like a lot of people's.

I am grateful for the cancer I have had because it helped me to take a look at what was really important in my life. So much stuff I threw out the window. Little fights don't mean a thing to me any more. And every day I get is a bonus.

I am grateful for the cancer that my mother had because it gave me the opportunity to say good bye and do all kinds of stuff with her I would never have done. It was like I got a heads up. Somebody dies of a heart attack or car crash, and that's that. No goodbyes, no trip to the fair to eat corn dogs one more time.

When my mother finally went into the hospital, I was so happy that she finally got to be really comfortable. They just loaded her up with pain meds, and when I would ask, "Ya got any pain, Mother?" she'd smirk and say, "Nope!"

I had to let my husband and children go, to the living death of drug addiction. That was really hard, but I finally had to say good bye.

It is important to say good bye. Everybody has special things they do and say, and you get to do that. With my kids, I finally hunted them down and asked them to sit with me for 15 minutes, and during that time I sang their favorite lullabies, told them their favorite story (I had the books memorized from when they were a year old), and I told them all about how I felt about them. I didn't feel better right away. But after about 6 months I started feeling free of that awful feeling that I had not done enough. Today I know I did everything that I could have done.

You need to take care of yourself at all times and especially during this time. What are the things you like or have always wanted to do? I get pedicures and I go see a therapist and I go to meetings where other people suffer from the stuff I have suffered with and I tell them that they are going to live through it. I also eat those Chocolate doughnuts with custard inside them, and buy myself lots of houseplants and keep a jungle in my house.

This makes it so you can go back refreshed to help your boyfriend and you get through this tough time. You are not going to get through this without grieving. But the most important thing I have to tell you is to not stop feeling what you are feeling. Honest response is the only way to getting well.

I wish you luck. Please write if you like.

I am so sorry for you and him. This is heartwrenching! Sometimes I wonder why God is unfair when a loving couple gets separated but I know He has his reasons for everything beyond my knowledge. Spend your waking and sleeping hours with him in hospital. I feel so sad.... you have to tell him how much you love him and make his days as pleasant as possible. He is suffering alot due to the bloating, water retention and organs failing. To console yourself, think that he will not have to suffer the physical, mental, emotional pain and destruction of his body. May God bless his soul. You must be strong after that and remember all the good times you had and cherish them. Pray also for God to comfort you and your bf, and all his love ones, during this difficult time.

This is something you must mourn. Don't hold in your feelings at all, it's the most dangerous thing to do, but at the same time, train yourself to let go. Celebrate the times you had, the things he taught you, about love, about passion.

If i were dieing, and my girlfriend were beside me, all i would want was to her to live happily.

It will take a while, and you'll have to cry, for maybe a long time. It will hurt, we all know that, but you have to eventually pic yourself up again.

It's not much, but i can offer myself as someone to talk to about this. I might not be eternally wise, but i've had a neer death experience, and almost lost everyone at once. If you want to email me my yahoo is charlie_piano_man@yahoo.com

i don't know whatelse to say, but that i'm truley sorry for your possition.

My heart goes out to you

If he feels alright during the day then I'm sure he will live. Maybe he was just having a bad dream and was in pain during the dream? If it continues he should see a doctor. They will be able to do tests to see if he is breathing alright through the night. I think he will be just fine.

what is happening to you is not the end of your life. i understan that you love him and that you have the right to feel the way you do... but have hope. Death is not the enfd of anything and who knows he may not die of that cancer all you need is the faith that he will make it.

this is what i think you should do... BE THERE NOW THAT HE NEEDS YOU MORE THAN EVER BEFORE.

omg that is so sad, even i want to cry, but all i can say is just be there for him and with him in these days, try to be strong for him and just let him know how much you love him, i'm so sorry you have to go threw this

totally surround his spirit with your love let him know that you are there and pray.for god hears your prayers and so does your love.there is some healing in prayer time is really the healer.make his days easy on you as possible .ibelieve love knows all god bless you both..

Talk to him

tell him you love him so much

ask for his guidance

ask him what he wants you to do in life his goals and his ambitions and tell him you will do them.

Its painful so you need to help him support him care for him

I am sorry for you my love and wish you well..... take care

ok...that is so sad! i think you should be with him nowadays cause you don't know what day or time he will die so make his life be more special and make him more happier!

spend the most time u can with him

im so sorry

this is so sad