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Cornflakes asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

I'm married, and my married guy friend seems to have a little crush on me.?

I am <<<very>>> happily married. A few years ago I worked in sales, and one of my clients was an undertaker. Of course I had a million questions, and he was really nice to me and answered all of them. Recently I went back to college, and I decided to write a paper about embalming so I looked him up. He remembered me and happily consented for an interview. During the interview he told me a huge secret so I know he trusts me and I thought we were just going to be friends. But since then he sends texts at odd times just saying hi. Yesterday he sent one that said "I was just thinking about you" and I'm like "uh okay" and then he said he liked my hair, and I was like wtf?? So it appears he's interested in me but he knows I'm married. I don't want to be mean to him because he's a really good guy. How do I let him know in a nice way that he's crossed the line? I don't want to make it look like I just used him for a paper.

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  • Pooda <3
    1 decade ago
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    Well tell HIm that Your Married And By Him Sending texts To U Lik3 Dat May Make Your Hubby Think That U Could be Cheating but tell this Guy That U Dont Want To

    Be AnyMore then Just Friends And If he Dont Li3k It Hes Going to Have To Drop Him All together Cuz If Sum One Thats SurpOst To be Ya Friend They Shoudl Be Happy For U

    And If Hes Not tell HIm To Hit the Road

  • TJ B
    1 decade ago

    If you and he are friends as you say... you just have to be open and tell him your happily married. If he's a real friend, he will value what you say and remain friends, if not,.... he's not looking for a friend...and get out

    Maybe invite him over to dinner w/ you and YOUR husband???

    Show him how much you love your hubby in your actions at dinner

  • Roger S
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    You just need to be straight up honest with him. This doesn't have to include you being rude or hurtful. Just let him know that you've been feeling he has been a little overly flirtatious and though you are flattered, you don't want to do anything that might hurt your husband nor do you want to do anything that could cause him problems with his wife. Being friends is fine.

  • kevinmccleanblack
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    Tell him thanks but no thanks

    Tell him straight that you are happy married and you are no interested in taking any thing further than to be friends ,If he still insists then tell him to go away,Or tell his partner to tell him to back off

    If he is a real friend he will understand and should respect your decision

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  • Pornita R
    1 decade ago

    i think the flirt in your subconscious is giving him "come on" signal..coupled with his thinking..."maybe if i try my luck here".attitude is causing all your conscious grief!..if you really wanted to show him the door..u would have done so...education is only an escuse you are using not to be blunt to him and tell him you are NOT interested.....think you do like this attention!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    THE VERY SAME WAY YOU INTRODUCED THIS "?"..

    WITH COMPASSION AND UNDERSTANDING...

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