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Boyfriend jokes about other girls?

My boyfriend sometimes will refer to his "other girlfriends" and make jokes about sleeping with other girls, even when he knows it bothers me. I really don't have any proof he's cheating and I don't know why he does this. If he was cheating, he probably wouldn't say anything, right? Is he trying to make sure I don't get too close?

It's strange... one minute he'll talk about getting married, and then later on he will "joke" about these girls. What is going on? I've tried to bring it up seriously with him and he'll either brush it off by calling me crazy in a jokey kind of way, or he'll say it's not cheating if we're not married. This scares me. He's 26, I'm 22, and there obviously are some trust issues in our relationship. Otherwise, he is very affectionate and I'd say a pretty decent boyfriend, but his comments have really been getting to me lately.

Thanks for any thoughts.

Update:

If anyone cares, we've been dating for about 8 months now... we dated before for about a year 2 yrs ago, and decided we wanted this to work (I finished school recently)

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Hmm..if i were you id keep a close watch on him. He sounds like he is cheating....i mean guys dont say stuff like that or unless thats their way of admitting the truth ..in a jokin kinda way. Its like he's telling you striaght up that he is cheating. And omg...its not cheating if yourll are not married....? WTF?? He definately has a wild side to him that he's not showing to you..what a waste!! If a guy trully cared about you he wouldnt wanna hurt your feelings or try to hurt u in anyway or joke about **** like that. You really need to think about this relationship and if he's really worth it..coz i dont think he is.

    Just my opinion.

  • 5 years ago

    Girlfriend Boyfriend Jokes

  • 1 decade ago

    His behaviour is not too uncommon. At certain times even I used to get all cocky n behave like how he does with my gf. I know now that it does no good. But still, your case seems okay, but not after u mentioned his viewpoint on 'cheating'; It aint cheating if ur not married! Come on! Who says something like dat? It's absoultely absurd. If u were to look deeper, there is a slight possibility that his statement is a result of his action! Maybe he IS guilty down there somewhere in him, of having an affair with somebody else. When people feel guilty about something, the only thing they can do is to counter-think it. It's just to make themselves feel better. It's possible ur BF says it coz he IS guilty. But ofcourse, it's just a possibility. You need to be careful. i suggest u talk it out with him n let him know straight up your view point. Coz at the end, cheating or not, this is not how people joke with their loved ones. It's too immature and hurtful.

    Alternately, u could urself play his own game. Why dont u too get all cocky n 'joke ' about being wid other guys!?

    Im sure he'll get a taste of his own medicine!

    Good luck!

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    1 decade ago

    Hard to think that your boyfriend is cheating. Cheaters don't really spill on the beans on cheating unless they have been caught cheating. Your boyfriend has a cruel sense of humor. Whenever I was with my last girlfriend, sometimes if I saw a pretty woman on TV, I'd jokingly say,"Hey now." I was just joking. I didn't cheat on my last girlfriend nor did I think about ever cheating on her. His comments could be worse. My last girlfriend would make a cruel joke whenever we saw a Macys commercial. Back in early October of last year, I was hired at one of the Macys in San Francisco. I was a men's merchandiser. My manager said that he would keep me past inventory. He said that I am a hard worker. If any job was available, then I would be "hired." Also, if I couldn't work there, then he would give me a recommendation. Well, he ended up keeping two of my coworkers instead of me even though I worked there for close to four months. I told my girlfriend how upset I was that he offered two of my coworkers jobs to stay past seasonal term and she didn't really care. Whnever we saw a Macys commercial, she's say, "Let's go to Macys" and then smile about it. I developed a skin condition on the left side of my face and she would jokingly call me "Patch." She would make fun that I would have to go to the bathroom. She made lots of cruel jokes. Compared to your boyfriend, your boyfriend's jokes are not that bad. They're just annoying.

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  • 5 years ago

    Yeah he became a splash insensitive... once you confront him how did he react? he initiate being worried after putting a great marvel face...and if he proceed performing strange it became probable no longer shaggy dog tale..yet while he does appear as if it became a shaggy dog tale..you comprehend variety of giggling once you ask him or he somewhat care that propose that he became merely joking.. i'm sorry i'm going to take his edge...i do no longer think of he's or became cheating..i think of he became probable merely joking..yet he extremely became insensitive...this may be reason he extremely did no longer prefer to have a new child or that's his thank you to recover from it..(greater in all probability)

  • 1 decade ago

    Sorry but I think anyone who behaves in this way is probably cheating.

  • 1 decade ago

    offer him a threesome if he says yes ring his best mate and ask him to come around in front of your boy friend that will shut him up

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    his says them to get to you haha i do it all the time

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