My daughter is 28, single, and owns her own small home but?

never fear-she will get sick of the mess-really!my college roomie and i rented a house when we were single/20's.it was so gross,my mom wouldnt even come inside,even tho we scraped the cat vomit off the kitchen table,just for her !!!!then,literally overnight we both came to the conclusion we couldnt go on like that!we worked on our cleaning skills,things got better and better.now we are happily married to gr8 guys,and one of us has a toddler.we each have very clean and neat houses and are both proud of how we finally got it together.in our cases,it was the realisation we were both engaged,and we couldnt expect husband/children to live in post college sloppiness!many of our friends,male and female,eventually got better at the home hygeine thing.dont give up hope,sometimes it takes till early/mid 30's to reform.once u kno how much better organization/fresh smelling home is,u never go back!good luck!

I'm very similar. I'm single and own my home, but I have a hard time doing both the interior and exterior work. One usually suffers while I'm attending the other.

I know you're saying she doesn't take care of either, but it's HARD when you work full time, take on all the responsibility, and do ALL the work.

When i first bought my home, i was on top of everything. Then I got completely burned out because I was always doing something to the house or for the house. I had NO LIFE outside of my house!!

So I reprioritized and now my house is dusty, I've got animal fur that builds up ( I do sweep weekly, though), and I'm behind on my bathroom (used to clean every week) and kitchen (use to clean everyday). And Im REALLY behind on my bedroom.

I do have to pay someone to mow my lawn (due to back injury) so that's ok. And I've been more focused on my yard more than my interior.

But I make time to go hang out now, so it's either the inside or outside that gets more attention, and right now it's the outside - which still isn't saying much

Sounds like she's just got other priorities in her life that she thinks are more important than the house or yard. She should hire it done or think about selling and moving to an apartment or condo where someone takes care of the yard. She'll have a hard time keeping a guy interested in her once he sees the the way she keeps things. She could have a neighbor kid do the yard at least that would be done then.

I once put in a woman who had the choice between using welfare to support her three kids or enlisting (the father couldn't enlist because he was a convicted felon, but that's another story). She chose to enlist because she felt it would make her a better person in the long run. The military isn't for everybody. It may not be for you if you feel that you can't bear to be away from your child during deployments or training. But fact of the matter is you have to pay the bills one way or another. Your child may miss you at first but in a few years they will understand. The Army decided that they will allow mothers of children enlist if they choose to do so and they are otherwise qualified (which you aren't due to not being married and having custody). When you're not training you go home every night anyway unless deployed.

If she is that busy maybe she needs to pay for a service if she can afford it. As a home owner I know how much time and effort it takes to keep things in order, especially with young children. Maybe you can suggest that she hire a lawn care company or a house cleaning service.

We've been considering getting a service to come in once a month to do a large scale clean up that added to our daily weekly cleaning will keep the house in good shape. My sister and some friends do this and they are quite happy with the results.

No, it's not just the younger generation. There are many people of the 'older generation' that are just as messy! I'm 23 and my apartment is always spot less, but i have a co worker who is 53 and her house is always a disaster. Depends on the person, not on the age or generation.

My mom has always kept her very,very neat... maybe your daughter probably doesn't have the time to clean her house. It is really a younger age. Usually 30-40 aged people start keeping their house cleaner. :)

Why don't you talk with her and suggest that since she is so active and has so much going on maybe hiring a cleaning lady to come in once a week or so?

have her hire a house keeper and someone who is in landscaping. and pay them either once a week or twice a month. this action devailuates the house alot.

Yup, it is the younger generation "way of life". But then again, we can't blame them for they were not brought up doing household chores. We emphasise alot during their growing up years to studying and getting good grades. So who are we to "pass remarks" about their keeping house now?