He left me 2 weeks ago,was supposed to be just a "break"and now he's talking to another woman...

So, you do have a bit of a temper, eh? You want him to come home but yelling liar in his face is not the way to do that.

How would you feel if he yelled at you because you said you were getting your emotions under control but then you had that outburst? Does that make you a liar? Hey, one conversation is not treason!

It's ok to blow up, but you need to apologive RIGHT AWAY after tha happens, not wait for days or months or never.

To get him back, you BOTH need a plan to commit to each other.

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I am sort of going through a similar thing right now. I think the best thing that you can do is give him his space and act like you don't care. I know that's so hard and easier said than done. But you don't want to look weak by begging him to come back to you and by always being there. Realize that you're a whole woman with or without him. He has no idea what he'd be missing if he lost you. Don't lose your temper or give him a reason to throw something back in your face. Example if he comes home late and you ask where he was, and you feel he is lying don't push him. Just answer ok. Because if you lose control it is only going to make you look weak to him and make it so he has something to hold against you.

From everything you've said in this question, you have no cause for concern at all. By forcing him to sit elsewhere and stop talking to her altogether, you are, in fact, pushing your husband away and perhaps even causing him to have doubts about your relationship. You know for a FACT that they have no contact outside of work, she is getting married very soon, you have never found porn/women's numbers on your husband's computer/phone. You NEED to stop letting that jealously consume your life. Your husband is doing nothing wrong. Don't let your own insecurities become a reason to try to dictate his life for him. He will find it very off-putting and will get very tired of this attitude over time. Instead, tell yourself that he married YOU because he loves you (despite knowing about your self-esteem issues which would have been enough to make most men run a mile). But no, he stayed with you because you are the one he wanted to be with. Forget this other woman - I truly believe that she is just a work aquaintance and nothing else. You can't control your husband the same way as he cannot control the things you do. Be happy, love him, and know one thing - life is wayyyy too short for worrying unnecessarily.

I put my husband out 3 weeks ago and Im telling you I thought it was the end of the world. I wanted him gone because he cheated and then once the days started going by and he still wasnt home I allowed him to talk me into letting him come home and now I cant stand the site of him. He makes me sick and I wish I would have just stood my ground. I think I wanted him to come home because I didnt want to see him with someone else or hear about it. The first week I begged and pleaded and cried then It was like I snapped out of it and it was hard but I started missing his calls on purpose and talking that divorce talk even went to get the papers all he had to do is sign well when he seen i was serius he wanted to come home real bad crying begging the whole nine. Give him his space and try REALLY REALLY hard to be strong. Do the opposite of what you have done in the past. When he calls and you get that urge to cuss him out or even begg put one of the kids on the phone let him know when he is done talking to the kids its ok to hang up. This is what I did the first few time he was ok with it. About the 3rd day girl he was crying and begging. It made me feel better that he was hurting but really he is not what I want.

It is too bad you did not spot the flaw in your relationship before you had two children. In marriage, there IS NO 'BREAK' time, it is a for ever thing, especially with children. I would tell him to pack his bags permanently and get to a lawyer so that you and your children will be taken care of properly. Not ready for a "relationship" ????? what does that mean, does that mean that he will come back to you with the understanding that later in your life together he will be "ready" for a relationship with another woman and he will leave you again. Believe me, he had the intentions of fooling around or he would never have left you. He started the playing around game, and you had better stop it now, or you will suffer much more later in your life when he decides that he is ready for a new relationship again. Have courage, protect yourself and your children and let him go and find his relationship.

Why are you allowing yourself to wait around on his decisions? You're letting him control the outcome entirely and he will see you as weak and undesirable. Get out there and meet new people, let him know that you're not sitting at home by the phone, pining away for him. If he wants to be with you, this will make him buck up and come home. If he doesn't, at least you will have a head start on rebuilding your life. Don't be that waiting woman. It only casts you in a negative, undesirable light. Good luck.

Wake up and smell the coffee, sister. The man is a dog. Treat him as such and give him the gate. You deserve more. Tell him that too. Why would you want him to come home when you now know what his idea of conflict resolution is? Besides....what sort of funk do you suppose hes been bringing home to you on that wandering dipstick of his? Gross. Find yourself a clean man with some scruples. You'll thank yourself later. Big hugs and good luck..

What do you think he was doing? My ex left me for only 3 days and I got a pone call from the woman he was with saying that she had found out that he was married and was sorry. You don't want to get a phone call like this, get rid of him and ask the court for soul custody over the children.

If he is "just friends" with another woman already, that would be a sure sign to me that he wasn't really that serious about creating a relationship yet. While I understand you would like to keep your family in tact, sometimes it is simply not worth it. We all want our children to become wonderful people, I do not think showing them that infidelity is okay and forgivable is creating the environment that allows wonderful children to be raised.

This is something only you know. You seem like too nice of a person to be a doormat. He left for a week, where do you think he was?? (hint-other woman) be a strong woman and do what your heart tells you but remember if you decide to make it work ..you have to trust him completely. good luck