What makes women think that they are a more superior parent when it comes to child custody?

I agree that Family Law needs a serious facelift.

My Husband's ex-wife was proven abusive and unstable in a court of law (and the judge, in an aside, also commented on her vindictiveness and selfishness), and yet still decreed that the child should continue to reside with mother so as not to create any more instability in the child's life.

The Mother was also married for the 4th time by the age of 34, resided, romantically, with an ex-felon in between marriage #3 and marriage #4, was granted bankruptcy, and, as per her usual course, has had innumerable jobs and homes in the meantime.

If there is anything that I could do to change the revolting trend of "skirts" winning 90% of the time, I would.

Because in many...not all...cases they are.

Yes there are fathers that are more parental than mothers or equal, but many times that is just not the case.

With many couples, the mother wakes up at night with the child, the mother stays home when the child is sick, the mother cooks dinner, the mother cleans the house, the mother knows why the baby is crying, the mother never gets to go out with friends. The moms do all or most of the parenting tasks, while the father just works. He relaxes after work while the mother cooks, cleans, and bathes the children after dinner.

Yes its not like this always. But many times when things are equal, the father was told to be more helpful. Many men think because the baby came out of the womans body then it is more her responsibility.

Think about why women do those horrible things you meantioned above. Most women that are helped out by the fathers, unless they are psychotic, don't do these things. It is always the mother that is stressed out or can't raise the baby on her own. This is why fathers must be around to help out. Unfortunately, when they don't, it is simply better to give the child 100% to the mother.

You say they couldn't survive if they took them off welfare, yes thats probably true. But tell me could a man survive working full time, cooking, cleaning, bathing children, feeding them, knowing all their physical and emotional needs, and do 100% of the parenting without going crazy too. No!

No one is meant to raise children on their own, but some have no choice, or it is just a better option.

Might wanna have some sources for the statistics, I can agree with you cause women still win the kids the majority of the courts cases. BUT...I THINK....it seems that way because well who would confess, complain and make it known that 'i won me da bebes?" Well women, when you see a father get the kids it's real hush hush, i mean even on tv those court cases it's always the dumbass deadbeat father who hoed around, wife beater, child molester, the likes...always seems to be the case. But with cases that i've seen where the father gets it cause the mother is foul is like...uninteresting or something. Reason i say this is cause my mother worked at a courthouse and she had thousands of stories to tell about divorces n what not. Pretty interesting stuff.

Personally they should seriously survey the capabilities of BOTH parents before choosing who will receive the child, that whole give it to the mother even though it's blatantly obvious the father deservers the child or the child is HAPPIER with the father is so damn unfair.

Ain't my fault I was born a man and don't go through labor like women do, I don't get where they think they love their child more than the father, hell there's fathers that love their children WAAAY more than any mother could.

It seems to me that women are more acceptable to addiction than men, and are less likely to clean up their acts if they become involved with drugs (heavy drug or alcohol use seems to be one of the leading causes of divorce). I've noticed over the years that although women are often awarded child support, they are usually the ones who should be kept as far away from the children as possible. Not only to plenty of the single moms that I know neglect their children, but they are more likely to have new boyfriends who may assault the kids as well. Unless daddy's a queer, chances are he's not going to end up with anything more than a new girlfriend who'll probably be ready and willing to help him raise his kids (if he was lucky enough to have custody awarded to him). I've got nothing against single moms, and I know there are plenty of good ones out there, but I think custody needs to be awarded based on mental health, stability of home, and character in general... Not just gender.

I couldn't agree with you more. I definitely think the court should look at more than the gender when deciding custody, it happens most of the time it doesn't always work for the economy and child, some men would be better single parents than the mothers, most definitely.

yes their are some bad women out there, but we are all not in the same category.I think the system stinks when they don't put the children first, in many cases.In Aust our laws are different, they usually award the fathers more percentage, ie I'm divorced, i have our daughter with me 67%, of the time, she goes with him 33%, and I have the hard work times, as in helping her with homework, he has the weekends for funt times, with little or no work, and pays me jack **** child support, which I struggle with, I work and pay bills just like every other parent, so you tell me who is the saint in this equation.

I am so with you, man!

Marina,

You haven't a clue. There are many men out there more qualified to raise children then women. You stereotype us saying we don't want to be tied down. That is total BS. Kids are our flesh and blood, and we do everything we can to make them happy and safe. We are not just walking wallets!

David T,

You should be embarassed talking like that! It is not that difficult getting kids ready for school in the morning before work. I did it everyday while my lazy ex slept in. I picked them up from school too. Yet, for years I am still fighting for a court date and custody after she kidnapped them in a legal loophole. She pulls BS just to weaken me financially so I'll give up. But I won't give up until that judge's gavel falls.

There is a lot of work within the home. Someone has to do it. Either men and women can try to split it 50-50, squeezing everything into the evening and weekends, or one spouse can specialize in earning money while the other specializes in running the household. This arrangement leaves everyone with more free time - all the work is done by 6pm in my household, leaving us free to play with the kids and watch tv together. I don't have a problem with anyone having careers, father or mother. I have a problem with people assuming that working for pay is somehow more valuable than running the household. if my husband disappeared, I'd have major problems - but he'd have major problems if *I* disappeared, as well. I also have a problem with the idea that pursuing money and a high-status career makes you smarter or a better person somehow. Both parents should be working - for pay or otherwise - for the benefit of their families. Some families decide that it benefits everyone more if one of those parents has plenty of "free time" to run the household. Ours is one of them. To answer your question..... If my husband shared the burden of being responsible for the household, (including organizing my autistic son's therapy), then I would also share the responsibility and worries of earning money. Neither of us wants to do that.

they should look at the individual situation, not just assume mom is better.

My brother has a son. the child's mom can't even get visitaion, but my brother gets full custody, no argument about it b/c the mom is a crackhead who never pays child support or keeps the kid safe........

Mothers know how to nurture their children in a way that a man cannot. Mothers and their children have a special connection that fathers dont share. Women have a sixth sense with their kids and are more likely to put children before themselves unlike men. Im not even a mother and I know that!