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Female advice needed ( not immature input)?

Ok so i was friends with this lady for 5 or so years. She left a relationship and we decided to start dating. She broke up with me telling me she wasnt ready for a realationship ( which i completley respected) then a little while later she told me she was wronge and wanted to be with me. So we went out for a while longer. We got to the point where we where talking about marrige and kids and we where looking at houses together and all that junk. Then out of nowhere she tells me she doesnt love me. so i couldnt just let her go so i tried to keep talking to her ( just on a friends basis which she agreed she wanted) All i have gotten from her for the last 4 months has been a hello here and there and that was it unless something bad happened or she was in a bad mood ( and when she wasnt giving me the silent treatment she was kind of rude and condensending). Then she calls me last week and tells me she still loves me and wants to be with me. So i start asking her why she has been treating

Update:

me like ****. Well she avoides the question and all i am finally able to get from her is she said that she was a dumbass. Yet she says she wants us to get back together. And still i cant get her to talk to me now. she told me the reason she broke up with me was because of the fact that im going to iraq and she thinks im going to cheat on her while im there. I didnt buy it because at first when we talked about it she said that she was going to write me constantly and all that mess. But i wasnt able to get a straight answere out of her about that or anything else that happened between us. All she said is that she wants us to start a clean slate so i stopped asking her questions about it. Now i know this is a game but i was wondering what would drive someone to play such a cruel game or if any of you ladys have any input or ideas about this ( that arnt rude or condensending) i would love to hear it. Thank you

Update 2:

Now i have asked her about another dude in the picture because that was my first instinct as well. I have also brought up the stringing me along thing and she goes into a tangent ( guilty consous maybe) about how thats not true and she doesnt believe that i could think that yet she got pissed when she found out i was hanging out with a female FRIEND of mine this weekend

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  • rissa
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago
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    I agree with Molly. She's keeping you on a string cause she can't find anyone better. She'll ditch you as soon as she does.

    And wtf? You would cheat on her in Iraq? As if. You'd be more looking out to stay safe, I would think. If anything, she's afraid she's gonna cheat on you but didn't want you to get mad.

    Anyway, good luck when you go! I know a guy who leaves in 2 weeks for Iraq also. Stay safe and forget this woman!

  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds like she is just playing with you - that you are probably good for her ego and her "standby" if she needs some emotional support and love, but if someone better comes along, she'll likely drop you. Plus, since you and she have gotten back together more than once, she will think that you are available to take more abuse and misuse.

    If she can get to work on her own insecurities, you and she might have a good future. But as long as you are just her toy, to be used and discarded as long as it pleases her, neither of you will be truly happy with the relationship.

    God bless and we (your internet audience) are pulling for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    Don't mean to be rude - be she's just playing with you, dude. Keeping you on a string until something better comes along. It's time to move on.

  • 1 decade ago

    WAKE UP, DO WANT TO SPEND YOUR LIFE WITH SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T KNOW WHETHER TO WIND HER *** OR CRATCH HER WATCH ?RUN AWAY NOW. THERE IS NO WAY THIS WOMAN WILL EVER KEEP HER WORD.SHE IS RUDE AND AN IDIOT. WHEN YOUR TALKING HOUSES, KIDS, AND A MARCH DOWN THE ISLE,AND SHE IS NOT IN LOVE SHE IS LOOKING FOR SOMETHING ELSE, WHAT YOU CAN GIVE HER, RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.TELL HER TO GET LOST

    Source(s): TO MANY FRIENDS BEING USED AS A BANK ACCOUNT WITH NO INTEREST.
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  • 1 decade ago

    u need 2 just totally 4get about her!! she's not even worth the time and effort-ESPECIALLY if she doesn't trust u not 2 cheat on her. SHE'S probably the 1 cheating! and if she's gonna treat u like that...'time 2 say gbye!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well i think the lady is bit confused or she is having some mental problem,so my advice is talk to him and sort out her problem take some more time and be polite.Good luck.

  • 1 decade ago

    shes been treating you this way because she has no clue to what love is or what she really wants. this looks bad bud, is this a preview of what's to come if your in it for the long haul? better think twice.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    dude, you need to set boundaries with her and yourself, and think, is she worth the hassle?

  • 1 decade ago

    my first instinct tells me there is another man involved here....

    cheating....

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