Would like to know the reason why couples (about 40 yrs. in marriage) still quarrel? Is the love fading out?

To some couples, love fades away with time. While other couples, love grows stronger and stronger.

Considering the points above, it depends on individual and how they handle their marriages as it grows older.

There is no marriage without misunderstanding, disagreement, etc. but the way and manner in which the issues are handled matters a lot.

Examination was carried out sometimes about “why couples develop hatred or having faded love for one another”? One of them said: "eating the same kind of food every day weary the body". Another said: the older the marriage, the older the performance of the spouse. Again, one said: the wife will not be able to submit whenever it is called for, etc. All the answers sounded so funny to me.

What is more, most ladies refuse or neglect to dress attractively as they used to do when they were much more younger, thereby loosing or becoming less attractive in the eyes of her husband.

Considering the above, one can sustain marriage, if there is good communication skill; having the spirit of forgiveness, taking time off from your busy schedule to be with your spouse (alone with her / him) if not always, once in a while. Always carrying her/him along in whatever you are doing or planning, etc.

Okay! I am 43 and my husband is 40 when have been together for 12 years. We still love each other. Here is the reason older couples fight a lot. It is because everything has become a routine (boring). Kids take a lot of your time, and so does your job. There never seems to be any time for you and your spouse to have five minutes alone together. So we fight over expenses also. When you get married you can never forget the other person (husband or wife) and you have to communicate know matter what. WE have to remember to set aside time in our busy schedules for each other even if it is that we just meet for lunch everyday.

People argue because even when married, you remain two individuals, each with their own opinions, their own thoughts, and their own desires. Over time you (hopefully) become more alike, or more accepting of those differences, but you still have them.

Certainly the marriages that last, have couples that do have a lot in common but, even in the best, there are occasional differences of opinion. Its not having no differing opinions that determines if it lasts, but how you CHOOSE to handle them, when the they do come up.

Sometimes you can agree to disagree. That means you accept that each has the right to the opinion they hold, even if you don't necessarily agree.

Sometimes, when it is an issue that is vital to who you are, you must stand firm. You shouldn't have to compromise WHO you are to stay in a relationship.

Sometimes you agree to compromise, for the sake of love. When the issue is more important to your loved one than it is to you, you yield to them, for the sake of love.

And it takes real wisdom to know which the right thing to do on each occasion.

I don't belive that, maybe in some cases. My parents are in their late 70s and boy you would think they were gonna kill each other sometimes, but they love each very much and i'm looking forward to getting old with my husband if thats what its gonna be like. I've always heard there is no perfect marriage, people that don't argue I believe hold stuff in and when it finally comes out its not a pretty picture. Good luck, I hope everything is fine :)

I'm 21 years old and I still argue with my bf that's 28 years old. Quarrels never go away. It doesn't mean you two don't love each other. It just means that both of you have strong opinions and don't want to give in.

Who knows....there could be a host of reasons why people still argue after a long period of being married. Some people stay together just for convience sake... or for the children, or because of money.... or because they feel they are "stuck" in their marriage......the list goes on.

people argue and quarrel ALL the time... some times more than others... i've been married 12 years.. we quarrel and argue about things, but still love each other... :D

Because the guy gets sick of banging the same the year after year, and sees it get older and wrinklier all the time.

cuz he wants a hamburger and she wants pancakes instead. and neither want to cook. she wants to watch a drama and he wants to watch sports. couples always argue.

For me love fades after one week... so it might be true.