PLEASE HELP! MY PARENTS ARE GETTING DIVORCED!! help me!?

hey, well i don't think your mom was influenced by her friends. she made her mind up. i think you shouldnt be mad at her, and just hope that she is happy. im 14 and have 5, 8, 10, and 16 year old sisters. also a 16 year old brother, my sisters twin. I know, big family!!!! my parents are seperated and the divorce isn't final yet. we didnt want them to get divorced and we were all devistated also. my mom and dad are both great people. but now that we all think about it, we would rather have my parents apart and happy then together and miserable.

good luck!! i hope everything works out well for your family!!!!

I am a mother of a 16 and 19 year old, I have been divorced just over a year from a 19 year marriage. This was very difficult on my children and I cant say enough for how sorry I am that we hurt them by splitting up. It know that they see me as much happier person now. I really dont know what they see in their father nor do I ask. None of this is easy for your and your brother and the two of you will probably be very close because of this. Mine are. Your mother may very well be seeking a so called "Better life". Sounds like your Dad is a pretty good guy. Keep in mind there are a lot of things that parents have between them that the Children do not know about. You have to trust them and this is not your fault.

Ask your parents if you can speak to a counselor. This really helped my daughter who was 15 at the time to get through this. I wish you the best and hang in there.....You will grow up fast because of this.

Gosh Sweetie Im really sorry! This must be so hard for you. Sometimes these things just happen. Maybe back then when she said it wouldnt happen she really thought that it wouldnt happen. Sometimes there just isnt a reason either. People can fall in love and fall out of love just as easily. As much as it sucks you have to think about your moms feelings too. If she doesnt love your dad like that anymore would you really want her to stay in a marriage that shes not happy in? And who knows maybe they just need some time apart and will get back together. I wish you the best of luck. You can E-mail me if you ever want to talk just click on my profile. You sound like a tough girl though just keep your head up, stay strong, and dont let your problems at home interfere with school. Sorryu this is happening to you.

Unfortunately there is not much you can do. It sounds like your mom has made up your mind. It probably wouldn't hurt to have a chat with her about it one last time. It's difficult to cope with a situation like that. This is a time where you really are going to need your friends to lean on. Don't be afraid to go and vent to them. That's what there for. I wish you all the best, and don't worry you will get through this.

Times like this are hard. You can try to help the relationship, I'm not saying you shouldn't. But if it doesn't work stay close to your brother and sister. They are younger than you and look up to you. If you cry, they cry. If you shout, they shout. If you feel like screaming, do it in your room.

Best of Luck

God Bless

I'm really sorry! My parents are divorced too. But I was 4. Just think, what if your parents fight, would you want them in the same room? No. Just remember, It isn't your fault.

~Rachel

First of all, your mom needs to find new friends

Talk to your mom and dad; sit them down and tell them to write out things they love about each other and things they hate about each other....whatever it is they hate about each other, they should find a way to work things out....if your mom doesnt care about it, talk to her about the disadvantages of a divorce in children and your future....make her see its wrong to get a divorce... thats my opinion....hope i was helpful

dont be mad at your mom. Some people arnt right for each other. my mom and dad are devorce and neaither of them have problems. they devorced when i was 2 so im like why is daddy leaving. its hard i no. just you have to try get over it

Just know it wasn't your fault and try to move on.

my parents are divorced. your mother was no influnced by her friends.... its not your fault and there is nothing you can do to stop it..