if you knew your life expectancy wasnt good, would you get involved with someone?

I honestly would hope that I could live my life like a normal, healthy person, if possible, for as long as possible. I know a guy who married a girl like that, and he feels that he is a better person because of her bein' a part of his life. She was very special. She refused to have children tho and I don't blame her. She wouldn't have been around to raise the child.

However, regardless of what the medical experts say, the girl may live much longer than expected.... who knows?

I would be very honest with the person and I would let her know exactly what could and could not be expected. I certainly wouldn't want to spend the rest of my time alone but I wouldn't mislead anyone either. Specially not someone who would care about me.

The degree of seriousness depends on both people involved. The real issue is that both need to be very honest to each other and agree on the sort of relationship that they feel is best for them BOTH. If this consensus isn't possible then neither is the relationship.

In my opinion, having children is out of the question in a case like this. I know that bad things can happen to any couple and sometimes children have to be raised by only one parent but one thing is when something unpredictable happens, another thing is already knowing that it will happen and still willingly put children and the other parent in a difficult situation. Remember, the children are the only ones who don't have a choice in this whole matter.

Oh hell no !,

that would mean downright unfaithfulness.

technically within five years there is nothing much left for you to do than to ponder on your passing.

but again on the other side,some couples have due arrangements put in place,its an understanding between the two and with all due sincerity they go about making babies well knowing the limited time there is.

this is common with the African setup where its deemed a great deed to leave behind an heir,its sort of leaving behind a legacy.

my ultimate approach to relationships would be to sit en wait en not give it much thought for without honesty ,relationships never last,never get involved seriously time reveals all between the two of you.

just stick in there,biblically,religion plays a pivotal role in keeping relationships intact.

to a lesser extent i would advice a total refrain until a certain time,say in your 30's,this is the best time to reposition yourself,for you know what exactly you are putting your head into.

At 35 this November,am still single en happier,my search is coming up in about a year or so.

have a great day

bye.

If I found someone I really loved I would have to be open and honest about my situation. If the love is strong enough the relationship will survive.

I don't think it would be fair to contemplate having kids if I knew I would have less then 5 years to live though!

You'd have to let them know very early on in the relationship. It wouldn't be fair otherwise.

stick to not so serious ones..............