my partner of 21 years wants me out and hates me?

Go talk to your Dr not the jerks on Yahoo Answers.

You know suicide is not the only way out. The only way out is to walk thru that door which is what you refuse to do, therefore you're going to think suicide is the only way out. You may suffer from agoraphobia, but if this woman calls the police on some trumped-up charges against you, you'll walk through that door in handcuffs whether you can or not. So, start doing something about things now before it comes to that.

The woman is a pothead. Why would you expect responsible mature behavior from a drug user? There's nothing you can do to get her off pot or change her behavior. She's told you how much she hates you and want you out, so why are you staying? If you're that much afraid of going outside, then go sign yourself into the county or state mental hospital and you'll be able to get the treatment you need, and you'll be from around your mate. If you can't do that, then maybe you can stay in a group home for people with mental problems like yours, You can get help with all this from the social worker where you go for treatment.

If your children are underage, then you need to get them out too. If you don't, then DFACS will. Look at this way for the children: their mom is a pothead and their dad has mental problems. Now, where does that leaves them? So, for their sake, you've got to do things to help them and help yourself. The longer you stay, the worse it's going to get. Even if it's been 21 years, it's time for things to end.

Honey, if the relationship has gotten that bad, you need to leave, before something bad happens to you, her, or the kids. Some questions are better left unanswered, so don't beat yourself up over it. If she is that willing to do whatever it takes to hurt you and get rid of you, you don't need her anyway, because it's obvious she doesn't love you anymore. I am sorry for your loss, but you need to get out now, while it is still safe. There will be someone else out there who will love you and treat you the way you deserve. Good Luck.

I can't possibly see what went wrong after 21years. OK let me be real it's the pot. I suggest you move out because from the looks of things she's becoming your worst nightmare. If you can try talking to a councilor both of you'll because you may thing that you did nothing wrong whereas she may be holding some sort of grudge against you.

Start seeing a medical doctor regarding your disorders. There are so many new medications available.

Start seeing a psychological doctor to deal with mental issues.

Then ease your way back into the world.

Ask to speak to a social worker who can help you find a new residence.

After you are on your feet...

Take her to court for custody & move toward a happier/healthier life.

Best wishes

Maybe she's into other drugs sounding from the way she is acting. I think its about time to move on. Look for another place to live, you don't want to end up in jail now do you?

so leave get a new place get a lawyer and get your kids out of that mess and get your partner for using drugs and I hope you are on medication for your problems you have to be strong for those kids dont sit there and take the abuse

when people asl for advice, they really already know what to do they just want someone else to say do the same thing. go kick his sorry ass hen

load up a shotgun and take her down.