Can I get some advice?

They sound like a bunch of self righteous bigots to me. They are probably born again Christians.

Don't try to show them your boyfriend is a good guy like some are suggesting. If they are so judgemental then steer clear of them. Life is too short to have it spoilt by pandering to closed minded bigots. Don't apologise for who you are

Every parent is different in the things they want their children to see / experience. Some parents don't want to have to answer questions that make them uncomfortable or that they cannot give "reasons" for disagreeing with. Think about it; perhaps for "religious" reasons someone doesn't approve of living together prior to marriage, and though she likes everything else about the people involved, doesn't want to have to explain to her daughter why it isn't a good idea. Because at the end of the day all she has to back up her reasons are religion and sometimes those reasons don't hold up much to inquisitive children. Try to stay friends with this woman. It's the only way people can learn to understand the way others live and beleive. And at the end of the day tolerance is what you want your children to walk away from childhood with. Explain to your daughter that she can stay over there, and explain to her that some people don't understand why people do not "legalize" their relationship. Explain to her that you don't need a piece of paper to have a beautiful relationship and that some people are not going to agree with this, but that's okay. That's who they are and you are who you are.

The danger in parents who over-protect their children is that when these kids get alone, out in the world, they aren't going to have mom and dad there to cusion the things they see, hear and experience. It's best they see, hear and experience differences while they are still home and you can explain what they are seeing and hearing; instead of turning them out into society for society to teach them. I'd rather teach my children and when someone else does something I disagree with -- I let my kids know: "This is how they do it, this is the way I do it, and here's why and the choices that need to be made in this situation. Think about it and we'll talk later." And then they talk to me later and they understand where I'm coming from.

Be proud of your family and how you do things; otherwise, your daughter will start to think that maybe there is something "different" or "wrong" with her own family if she hears you making excuses for how things are at home. :)

Bottom line you and the other mom don't have to agree on everything to be friends. It's how the two of you resolve conflict that shows your daughter how to resolve her own. Did all this make sense? I didn't have time to proof read it, I hope it helps.

I'm with you girl. These people have some kind of issue. There is nothing wrong with have your boyfriend move in with you. Have you tried to talk to them and ask WHY they have a problem. It just doesn't make much sense. I would let my daughter stay at your house is she was friends with your daughter. I don't see what the big deal is. I wish you the best of luck and I hope your daughter's friend is soon allowed to stay at your home again.

I personally wouldn't have a problem with it. However, I can understand that some parents may not want their children witnessing a situation which they find below their moral standards. In other words, they probably don't want their daughter thinking that it's ok to live with a man outside of marriage because Ms. So-and-so does it. You have to respect their parenting and morality on this. Though you may have known them for 3 years, they (I assume) do not know your boyfriend, and perhaps do not feel comfortable with the situation. Allow your daughter to her friends house, because it would only cause more harm to her if she lost a friend over this.

There must be some reason why they don't want their daughter around your boyfriend. You have to respect their wishes. Perhaps he did something that you don't know about or maybe your to ashamed to say what it is. You need to put yourself in their shoes. Whatever he did must have been bad. Now would you let your daughter go to someones house knowing there could be danger there? I didn't think so. They are doing what is necessary to protect her. If your friends are safe and they have done nothing wrong than I don't see what the problem is. Why not let your daughter go over there?

You should allow your daughter over to their house to let the girls still be friends. Maybe you could attempt to have a small party and invite them over with their daughter and a few other couples. Or go out to dinner with them and talk to them a little on a mature level not even relating to the girls situation... Either way, I would still allow your daughter to go play over there since their friendship is what is most important in this situation.

Good luck!!

Well without knowing more I am guessing it may be a moral question with them. If this is the case there is probably nothing that you can do about this. Having said this I would not drag your daugher into this problem. If she wants to stay at her friends house and her parents are responsible and she is welcome I see no reason to deny her the ability to do so. As for feeling judged by these people I wouldn't worry about it people are always judging other people. Right or Wrong as their conclusions may be we are all in the same boat with this one.

I think it's nothng to get upset about, alot of parents are like that, it's not always something personal, just that they are protective of their daughter, and you have to respect that.

Or if you're convinced it's personal, don't try to fight with the parents, it will just cause problems for your daughter and her friend. You should maybe ask nicely if the boyfriend thing is really the problem, and see what they say! Try to be calm and understanding about this, because they might even have a problem too.

Rather than judging you, they are choosing their morals for their daughter. Neither of you are wrong. Why not suggest outings for girls...pool, movies, etc.

Then, if there still is a problem, then I would think that the other girl's parents have some other issues, such as disapproval of your lifestyle.

This will turn into a discussion of lifestyles with your daughter to show her the meaning of tolerance and respect for others.

Try to show them that your boyfriend is a good guy. Also, if they really don't want their daughter coming to your house, suggest that the kids hang out somewhere that is not at your house (the mall, a park, go to a movie, etc.) How old are the kids?

I think it's very unfair and unfortunate that some people in society treat others this way.

Tread carefully, you don't want to spur this into a bigger issue by doing something dramatic.

As for the kids, let them be kids - it's horrible when adults like the friend's parents can get in the way like this.