My husband recently had a grandchild and his ex-wife would not allow me to attend the birth?

I can't decide which way to answer this.

I guess I'm wondering a couple of things...

His ex didn't want you there, but if it's his grandchild then obviously his daughter had the baby. Did his daughter care if you were there? If she didn't want you there, then that's her decision. You can't be mad at your husband for that. If it was just the ex-wife then forget that! Your husband should have stood up for you because you are right, you are his family now.

Also, did you want to actually be in there when the baby was born? I'd say that's asking a bit much, but I guess it really depends on how your relationship is with your stepdaughter.

Regardless of it all, I doubt this is a situation to end your marriage over!

Michele if you truly do love him as much as you say you do then you will understand that this was out of his hands. Don't make him choose, that isn't fair. Would you have preferred being at the hospital around his ex? This is her daughter giving birth and it's obvious that the two of you don't get along. Take a step back, be the bigger person here. Having a grandchild is a very special occasion. When his daughter comes home with the baby, you and hubby should go over for a visit bringing a nice gift for the baby. You can be totally involved in the baby's life - it's nice when step moms love you like their own. I'm sure the daughter wouldn't have minded you being there, but since her mom did mindn then taking a step back is the right thing to do rather than causing a scene on what should be a special day. Don't let this become a fight between the two of you - it really isn't worth it.

Did it occur to you that it might have been his daughter who didn't want you there? This really wasn't your husband's show, and It was presumptuous of you to expect to be there. I know I wouldn't have wanted my dad's wife of four years at the birth of my child (if my dad wasn't married to my mom). Your husband's daughter was there before you, and will be there after you, if you choose to end your marriage over this. You're being unreasonable. EDIT: O.K. Maybe the ex-wife is a bit crazy, but your husband was in a tight spot. He could have made a stand for you, but the ex wife would have escalated the conflict, which would have upset the daughter, who is the one we all should be thinking about here. For the sake of your husband and his daughter, let this one go. They will love you all the more for it. By now, they both know the ex is a nut job. Don't sink to her level!

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It doesn't have to be the end of your marriage...unless you make it so.

You married a man with a past....and four years is not nearly enough time for all to be forgiven and forgotten....

He did not choose his first family over you....what has happened here...is that you have demanded he choose...you over them.....

If you are wise you will let this drop....and move on....

Who attends a birth is a private matter, she didn't want you there so you have to respect her decision.

I don't think your complaint is reasonable and it is based on jealousy. Just love the grandchild as a grandmother should.

If his daughter wanted you there you would of known it within the 9 month pregnancy.

This is a special moment for the family and you should understand.

Visit later in the hospital or when she gets home.

You are looking for him to fight for your ''Honor'' YOU ARE SILLY pick your battles.

attend the birth as in the same room? that's just expecting way too much. As for going to the hospital and being in the waiting room, nobody can NOT ALLOW you in a hospital waiting room and your husband is a total wuss/wimp. He should have insisted you be allowed to wait in the waiting room with everyone else. Bunch of immature idiots insisting the daughter/son chose between mommy and daddy....how are they going to raise children if they can't even act like adults now? ARGH

Well, YOu have to respect theother party. YOu have to remember that, that is not your direct family. If they do not want you there it is thier wish, Not your husbands. His hands are effectively tied in this situation. There is nothing you, nor him can do but grin and bear it.

Them ex-wifes are a pain aren't they? But I decided it was easier to get along with them than fight with them....But you can't really blame your husband, now you know what he really lived with...e