How do I accept/move on with my dad?

It's hard to accept some one you do not know , and it makes it worse knowing that he drinks , lies , ect.

In my opinion the best way to accept some one like this is to just accept the fact that he is your biological father , no more , no less .

Any man can be a father but it takes a real man to be a dad .

I would come more believing your family over your father .

You said yourself that he is a liar .

I think if I were in your shoes , I would just call him occasionally , say hi , how have you been , I'm doing good , ect. Keep it short & simple . Maybe go see him once in awhile , but again , keep it short & simple .

You will then at least be making some type of effort .

From what you have said though I would not expect him to be putting any effort into this .

There is no reason that you should stress yourself out over this , none of this is your fault .

As long as he continues to drink , he will eventually die a very old and lonley man , and will have no one to blame but himself .

You can not change some one that doesn't want to change themselves .

I am so sorry that you have to deal with some thing like this .

It's very hard I know , my kids had to deal with a similar situation . They are grown now , and because of the way their father was , they now want nothing to do with him .

They have done just fine with out him , and I know you will too .

Just hang in there and be strong .

It's his loss , not yours .

I went through the same thing a few months ago. i am 17 years old, and one day my parents were just like guess what, we're moving. i was really upset about it at first, and to be honest there are times when i still miss my old house. but the thing is in your house you live in now you have a lot of memories and those memories will always stay with you no matter where you go in life. there are probably a lot of new memories that will be made at this new place you are going. if your parents are forcing you to move theres really nothing you can do except look at the bright side of it and just look at it as a new chapter in your life. everyone goes through something at some point because life is always changing in some way. hope this helps :)

Look sweetie it was probably a blessing you were raised by your grandparents. Thank God for them. You do not have to hardly even see him so when you see him be civil to him. It seems like he has been in this condition for some time. No one can change him all you can do is pray for him.

I believe you are gonna do just fine even if your parents were not always there. For give them even if they do not ask to be forgiven. If you don't you could end up living your life with allot of unhealthy stress. Find peace so you can be free.

You are very young enjoy life start right were you are at today.

I can identify with you, I met my dad when I was 18 yrs old. I thank God I had a great mother who had to be both mom and dad. You know it is like weird when I visit him because its like small talk no real father daughter relationship. But that's okay.

Give life all you got and be happy with what you have and where at.

Good luck!!

Such a challenge to know that your dad is someone you don't share any fundamental values with. He is just a person, and that's ok. Biologically he may be your father, but that doesn't mean that he has to be a big part of your life. You are an adult at 19 and can decide how you want that relationship to be - what will be healthiest for you? You don't have to "accept" him.

As for what to believe - believe your own gut instinct and your heart. As you grow and have your own life, you will see him with different and more mature eyes. Your perspective may change, it may not. But you get to decide how you want to interact with him right now.

Stay close to the family you have and can accept - that may not include your biological father right now and that's ok. You're still figuring it out.

You know what you have to look at it like this. You met your dad, you made the effort and the feelings weren't reciprocated so now all you can do is move on with your life. You managed 17 years without him and these past two you haven't gained anything from knowing him. Some people just don't deserve to have children and you deserve a hell of a lot more then his willing to give. Move on with your life and don't let him drag you down.

You don't get to choose your biological family. But you can choose your friends and then they become a kind of family.

You can't choose or control what happens to you in life, but you can control what things mean to you.

People are either warnings or examples. Either way you can learn from them. And if people have nothing more to teach you, to add, you can just move on. Don't hang out with people who make you feel bad for the sole reason that they are family.

Well I have the same problem, you don't have to move on with your dad.. ... ...

Ps: I use my dads pension money for the thing on top of my head. Sad isnt it?

I just sent you an email... I hope you succeed since it's something your heart desires.

I don't have a relationship with my dad too.We can't choose our parents.

well.. i guass just accept the fact that he is your dad,

mabe try to find something you both like to do

and try to do it,

find something u can tlk to him about,

good luck