How do I deal with a friend's self-destructive behavior?

you definitely need to try and help. just try saying something in a non threating, were just hanging out kind of way. but also, and this is the hard part, after a while you need to remove yourself from a bad situation like that before it hurts you. if you do get to that point which i hope you dont just let him know if he ever wants help youll be there but you cant leave yourself in a bad situation

I don't think this would be about your chart, Hon. I think this is something most of us go through at some point in our life. I wish there was something I could do or say to help you not feel so badly. I really do. I know this hurts so much right now to have all these conflicting emotions. I don't think you are being self-destructive to hope that they break up. I just wanted to say something based on what I've observed of you on this astrology section. I have a very strong feeling that there is some gorgeous and bright young man who is absolutely crazy about you, and you haven't seen him yet because your mind has been on this.

Im no expert in this category... but i think that you should find a way to tell him how you feel. If you dont think that you can talk to him about it you could write an email or a letter or something. However you decide to tell him, i think that you really should. Just tell him how you have seen other friends and family get hurt from the same things that he is doing, you dont want him to suffer, and anything else you need to say...

Try to get your firend to understand that you really care about him and you want him to be healthy and well.....but most commenly people who are stuck in situations like that, require more professional help (like rehab) friends usually can't help each other on their own, so you must seek help for him, you can talk to his parents or some adult to help him get into rehab so that you can help your friend out of that mess....however, as you are his friend and you are worried, you must act fast because he could get AIDS for all you know from sleeping with multiple partners!!!

Try this IN PRIVATE: "Dude, you are one of the most normal people I know. I don't wanna be preachy or any thing, but I gotta tell ya; I'm kinda scared about how you've been behaving lately. Now I'm no saint, but I'm worried that you're gonna get a (censored) load of (censored) coming your way if you don't slow down."

If all else fails, rat him out to the cops. You just might save his life.

manipulate him into spending more time with you... but then again, may be he'll just wake up one day and see that he's tire of it and quit on his own. don't nag him about it, just remind him now and again that he'll hit rock bottom.

Run quick the ship is sinking.

tell ehr how you feel