Im SO Confused, Whats The Right Descison?

Are you financially secure with the job he has now? If so, I'm glad he realizes some things in life are more important than money and it will be a wonderful lesson to your daughter as she gets older. If you're struggling then it may be in the family's best interest to take the job and ask a judge to modify the visitation order.

Well.... I think your husband has a point HOWEVER I totally agree with you. The EX is just trying to be difficult but your husband has to understand that with this new baby and now his wife he has other responsibilities. I would suggest doing a temporary move almost gaureenteed the EX will give in and change the days because its a "break" for her too. Dont pass up a better home and job because of a little longer drive time, and if the schedule is staying the same then he isnt loosing time with his son its the same amount of time as he was getting before! So...whats the diffrence? GOOD LUCK hope it works out hun! An I hope you two dont let the EX dictate you and your families futher! (p.s. Congrats on the baby!!!) =]

In my opinion, I don't think you or your husband will be doing an injustice to his son by making this move. In fact, you both are being unfair to yourselves. Always remember, when you prosper your children will too. If you live good, so will he. I think that having a stepchild involves making sacrifices. Once you move, maybe then the mother will allow the son to stay for longer periods of time just as long as it doesn't interrupt schooling. I am sure things will fall into place. My bf and I moved about an hour away from his daughter who is 7 yrs. old. Yes, we have to make the extra sacrifice to make sure we see her regularly and luckily the mother makes arrangements with me that are suitable for both parties. We accommodate each other for the sake of the child. We too live in another city due to a better financial opportunity. All is well now. All of our concerns about us being too far away from her went away as we realized that having a child in a separate household should not prevent us from being happy and successful as we deserve and have worked hard to be. I think that your hubby should def. reconsider. He should take into consideration you and your child and the family you both created. He should not feel guilt or have any worries for leaving his first child in another city. It is not that you both left him either....it is that this is apart of life and you both have to do what is best for you and your family. Children almost always find their own way to understand things. I think that this move is best for you all. Good luck to you!

you have to respect his ties with his son heck there are a lot of men out there who don't give a darn if they ever see there kids be glad he is a caring father

the only other choice is go talk to a lawyer about any chance of being able to get custody or changing times

take her to court. he doesnt have to get full custody of his son. my sisters husband has a kid and he gets his son evet other week, except his kid goes home on wednseday then comes back thursday same thing happens when the boys mother has him. try working something like that out. he has the right to see his kid more then four days a month.

if he really loves his son you don't want to separate them any more but if his baby's mama is reasonable try to talk to her if you really want to move try to get her to be reasonable if not stay where you are it must already be hard for him to not see his son very often

I think its his son and you should stay out of his business.

actually you could go to court just to see what kind of better visitaion he could get... it sounds like you would gett better dates and she would have to let you have them or she could get in serious trouble... good luck

i think that he loves his son A LOT and duh he isnt going to move farther away from son ecspecially if he is going to see him less! if ur fine where u are then just stay there.