married without risk of divorce?

I wouldn't personaly ceremonially get married and not legally. The reason there are so many divorces now days is because people don't take their commitment seriously. You should be committed fully to your marriage and not back out whenever it isn't fun anymore. Marriage is not always fun.

I definetly think it's a lack of commitment. I could see saving money on a car, but on your marriage?! I also think it could turn into a big headache later on without the marriage license. As for the commitment with God, I think it depends on the vows the couple takes on. I mean why even do it ceremonially if someone is thinking about all this?! If the couple doesn't have the marriage license and lives their lives as they are married and DO get a divorce...there's no proof you two are "legally" married, so who's going to get the house? The car? What about the kids (if they are any in the picture)? I would stay to the person stop tryin to save a dollar and have the wedding of your dreams...make it special...its a day of many girls dreams...do it legally =)

If two people planning on getting married , are trying to find ways to avoid divoce costs , what in hell are they getting married for ?

Sorry , marriage has nothing to do with any gods . A religious ceremony does not make a legal marriage . It's not legal until it's registered in the court house .

My wife and I made no divorce plans at the time we decided to marry . We've had a story-book perfect marriage for over fifty-four years . We didn't begrudge the government the couple of dollars to issue a license and record the marriage .

A ceremonial marriage is like two little kids playing , they pretend to be getting married , but it's just play .

I can't even imagine two people swearing their love for each other , but are planning on splitting at the same time .

I think that's something people just say who don't want to get married--usually men.

Anyone can say anything they want about marriage, but only LEGAL marriage affords you legal protections in case of illness or end of life decisions for the partner or financial things.

Plus, if you're so pessimistic that you already plan on divorcing or splitting up, YOU WILL. If that's on the table as an option right from the start, you might as well not even have the phony committment ceremony, cuse it isn't going to last anyway.

I think a marriage is forever if your going to get married you might as well go all the way. I see it as a commitment to each other as well as with God. you ever heard of "a diamond is forever" so should a marriage. at least in the perfect world.I 'm afraid of marriage because of that great commitment and that risk of the person you claim to love forever isn't the one your meant to be with and end up divorcing. So in a way thats a great idea to get married without a liscence being signed.

I think you should commit all the way or not at all, saying you will avoid the risk of divorce but not legally marring is not true. To me marriage is a state of mind, and if that is true it is a mess no matter whether it is legal or not. There are some pros to being legally married. Health insurance, children have a sense of belonging and stablilty, legal issues such as if one of you were to be hospitalized you could make decisions. There are pros to legal marriages.

Personally...I don't see a problem with doing this for the tax reason and because marriage is just a commitment between you two and God. But it doesn't matter what I think...or anyone else...it matters what your significant other thinks. They might not be comfortable with the idea...expecially if you mention "to avoid the risk of divorce costs" to them as one of your reasons, lol. I don't think mentioning that would help your cause.

I married ceremonially and its a night mare! Everyone questions your commitment and if you have religious family it gets worse. We have different last names and everyone wonders why. The list goes on.... If you really love someone and want to marry them, it shouldnt matter how "risky" marriage/divorce is because you shouldnt plan on divorcing them before you even get married. If you are concerned about getting divorced then you shouldnt marry at all.

I thought you could needed a marriage license to get married ceremonially? I have no idea but if it were up to me, (a woman who always has a back up plan) would just do it ceremonially.

Nothing in life is guaranteed.

That is basically starting your marriage with no hope and already believing that you will be divorced. I don't think that's a good idea there is no real commitment there.