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Ladies 30yrs Old And Up- Pls Help Me Get Through This?
I'm turning 30 next month and up until a few weeks ago, I was really excited and planning a huge celebration. Now I'm feeling really depressed. I have a great successful career, in a 2+ year relationship with a great guy, in pretty good shape, and I'm relatively independant. But I feel like something is missing. I want to get married and have kids and I feel like I am running out time because I don't want to be an older bride or thinking about retirement when my kid goes off to college. I've been hinting at marriage to my boyfriend but we haven't seriously discussed it yet. I don't know how to get through the next month and a half without breaking down in tears every day. Did anybody else go through this? What did you do to make it better? Most of my female friends are younger than me and my boyfriend doesn't understand the whole biological clock thing or that after age 35, the chances of a healthy pregnancy start to decline. I appreciate any advice that you offer. Thanks.
The question is asking if you went through it and what did you do? Please don't cite Hollywood actresses. I know about them and it's not making me feel any better.
Anne and Sandy- what great answers! Best wishes to both of you!
6 Answers
- AnneLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
I've had a lot of friends struggle with this. Some cried a lot and got kind of desperate in who they'd be willing to date. One decided that instead of mourning it, she'd celebrate it and do things throughout the year that she'd always wanted to do but never had. She took belly dancing classes and some trips she'd always wanted to take. She got married a couple years later, but still remarks back on her 30th year and how much fun she had.
There is nothing wrong with being an older bride...it means your took your time to find the right person instead of rushing into something prematurely. I just got married at 31 and several of my friends got married in their mid-30s.
Pregnancy risks do start to go up at 35, but people still have healthy kids into their 40s. My husband I plan to wait a few years so we can enjoy being married and traveling before we start our family. I have friends that had kids right out of college and I don't envy them. I've traveled, had a successful career. Sure, I'll be older when they finish up high school and college but I did all my traveling and fun when I was young and could be active and really enjoy it.
Look at the positives and trust that marriage and kids will happen for you when the time is right.
I hope that helps.
- 1 decade ago
I went thought this 13 years ago Your are right about healthy pregnancy start to decline but if you work with your Dr there should be know problem with a pregnancy at the age of 35
Source(s): I'm getting remarried at the age of 43 and will be working with the dr myself to have a healthy pregnancy my self - StephanieLv 71 decade ago
This is something that you have to work thru on your own. Youre really blowing it all out of proportion. Holly Hunter just had twins when she was 47 ... countless movie stars have babies late in life. Many people start businesses well into the 40s. Everyday is a new day and nothing is sit in stone. You will be fine you just make the choice to be happy. Its your life so live it.
- 1 decade ago
Chill, your over thinking it. Discuss marriage w/ your bf. You still have plenty of time to have kids.
Then you'll wish you were 30 again.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
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