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y asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Asking her out?

Well wouldnt you know it, I was getting ready to call a girl and talk to her a little, hint that I like her and see if she wants to go out sometime. But, I just found out that one of her friends passed away. Wtf do I say or do now?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Well shes very vulnerable so try being there for her when she needs someone most. Comfort her and reassure her that everything will be ok. Let her vent and listen nicely to her fears and troubles of losing her friend. It might even get her liking you if shes sees your always there 4 her. hope this helped =)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Hmmm.......that's a toughy. Sorry if my answer is a little long. Well, first off, just give her a little space. After some time for her to think, you should just try to comfort her. You could call her and ask if she wants to talk or go to the park or something. Take it really slow. Spend some time with her. I'm sure she'll notice how much you care about her. Listen to her and what she has to say. As you talk more, you could bring up the more-than-a-friend stuff. Right now, she probably just needs a friend. You might want to be more than a just a friend, but that might be pushing it. Think of what you would do if one of your friends passed away. Try to be really understanding. Don't worry, things will fall into place.

  • 1 decade ago

    ok this is gonna seem very F'd up but you can let her know how much your here 4 her and maybe instead of asking her out u can ask if you can go over & keep her company, or ask her our 4 coffee (not 2 the movies or anything) just ask if u can keep company. Its nice 2 have someone of the opposite sex thats not ur family b there 4 u (but if your gonna get ur self into that situation make sure ur ready 4 the commitment) If u were just gonna ask her out kuz u thought she was pretty or hot, then don't make her life any harder and leave her alone. Good luck- i'll pray 4 her & the girls family

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Call her up and ask her how her day is going. Don't throw anything heavy on her considering her friend just passed away. Don't ask about her deceased friend until mentioned by her. Be caring and sweet but no over romantic like you want to get into her pants. Good luck -- you seem like a nice guy.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Now is not the right time to bring up the fact you want to date. But it is the perfect opportunity for you to show her you care about her. Just let her know you are there for her, simple as that. Don't go too far and give her flowers or callher lots askin if she is ok, just let her know you are there. After awhile, when she kinda stops mentioning her friend a lot, then maybe try to take her out...

  • 1 decade ago

    That you know she lost a friend and even though you don't understand how it feels to have such a loss that you have empathy for what she is going through and you're sorry.

    You should avoid trying to talk for a really long time with people who have had a loss, only if they are willing to do the talking. You shouldn't talk to them a lot. Allow them to talk a lot if they so choose to.

    Hope that helped.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    give her a little while to deal with her pain and things. if she looks better just don't bring it up or anything because she might start crying or something. giver her a few weeks or so and ask her friends if she is better and things. girls take more time to deal with problems and they don't get over things as quick as guys do. call her and tell her "hey (her name here), what's up?. i was just wondering if you woud like to go to the movies or something. are you up for it?" also: if she says you can't just tell her "oh that's okay it's no biggie. how about some other time? call me when you get the chance. bye"

  • 1 decade ago

    u should b there 4 her threw the whole time. and WHEN u ask her out she'll realize what a great guy u r and that u helped her threw a really hard time 4 her.

    being there 4 her now will only make things better :)

    try it

  • 1 decade ago

    You should try to cheer her up and be friends and closer and closer and then tell her you know the feeling and tell a sad story about ur life [if u have one and if you dont make a joke]

    you well become best friends :]

  • 1 decade ago

    Call her anyway and let her know your thinking about her and are really sorry this happened, she'll think more of you for this and will be more likely to go out if she see you have a personality.

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