How do married couples manage the stupid stuff that isn't really stupid?

Whenever i think about getting upset over something stupid, I just think about how short life actually is. I think about the fact that my husband could die today and therefore I should appreciate every little moment that I have with him.

LIFE IS TOO SHORT to be stressing over the little things! In the longrun, they never matter. Enjoy the company of your spouse!

You have got to find a way to compromise. I too can't sleep with no air movement in a room. I have to have a fan at the end of the bed, and most always the window open above the bed as well. If he is getting sick that easy, than he should go to the doctor, because you don't get a cold from moving air. Sleeping apart, I believe is a very bad thing, and shouldn't be started unless all other options have been exhausted. Don't give up. Good Luck & Chin Up!

Why don't you go to an Osteopathic Dr? They can manipulate your back (spine) to relieve pain, much like a Chiropractor. The difference in the two is that the Osteopath will NOT keep you coming back once you're pain is alleviated, unless YOU feel that more needs to be done.

Maybe your husband should go to the Dr. as well to find out what can be done for him. Is it circulatory or has he ever been checked for the cause?

That would be worth finding out about, especially if there's relief to be had.

Sleep is important and so is compromise!

I'm not able to sleep in our bed for any length of time cause it's tooooooo hard and I wake up in agony...we've tried a mattress cover, no help there. Hubby suggested we get a couple more toppers but I find comfort in the recliner...no out of pocket expenses and I sleep like a baby. We do cuddle on the bed but I go to "chair" when I get sleepy.

Sure, you can ask him to sleep on the couch. Suggest that he do that every other night until you're both able to adapt to each other's comfort zone. He may or may not want to - that's his call.

Or, get him a ton of extra blankets to throw over the top of his side of the bed. If he sleeps near the window, rotate the bed so you sleep by the window.

Is it worth it to hassle over this? That's your call. I don't see why it has to be a problem at all IF you're both WILLING to do what's necessary to find comfort for each other!

Just my thoughts!

It's not really a cold, his sinuses are affected by the air quality. If you can't sleep without ac or a fan he needs to compromise for your comfort and not be so into his own needs. He can use nasal spray or a breathright strip and bundle up so you can be comfortable to. We manage the stupid stuff by choosing our battles, deciding on what's really important and what we can shrug off as unimportant. Getting a good night sleep is pretty important, for your peace of mind and your health.

My husband and I have separate rooms to sleep in because our schedules interfere with each others rest. It works for us, and I like having my own personal space. I don't know how long you've been married,this arrangement might not work for a younger couple. I've been married for 28 years and have had my own room for 4. Maybe if you got a small personal sized fan you might feel like you have air.Your husband should give in a little.

My wife and I are the same way. I like to have noise when I sleep like a fan and have to have it cold. The first few months of marriage were difficult I gave her her way some and I did my thing in the end I ended up being able to do all the things i like to make it comfortable and now she is accustomed to those things.

Sleeping somewhere else is a bad idea. Compromise. You will both have to give and take a little. Open the window and have him use more covers.

It's all about communication and compromise. For example, in my thinking it's easier to get warm if the room is cold than get cool with no A/C - so he could put on more cover or some flannel jammies

Do not start sleeping separately - the beginning of the end if you do. Try to compromise by putting a small fan on your side of the bed or put extra covers on his side.

Do you guys want to sleep together? If yes, which I would suppose so, then BOTH of you have to give and take . That;s how true LOVE is joint together. A pencil has lead at one end and joined with an eraser at the other...they are one but different in nature.