Is it right that my neighbour can listen into my flat?

Legally it would be difficult for you to really do much, you can call citizens advise and see what they suggest.

I personally would suggest trying to sound proof your flat, it sounds like the walls are really thin etc.

A more drastic approach would be to move, but in this current property prediciment I would not suggest it.

Are you sure that these 3rd parties are absolutely correct in what they say? Is so honestly I would try and forget it every happened as it is only going to cause you more stress. However, and this is the important bit can you not go into another room to have your conversations so that you cannot be overheard?

As for the mail is it not possible for you to have your own mail box with a lock on it so that they cannot take your mail?

Also have you discussed this with anyone else that may be able to advise you accordingly as I'm sure it would be helpful if you could.

Sorry that you have been subjected to this by people who ought to know beter than to take advantage of someone in your position.

I hope you get this problem resolved even if it means talking to a mental health visitor about it.

Taking anyone's mail is a felony offense. You have rights in that regard and it doesn't have to be anything physical. I seriously doubt she or her husband snitches the mail to provoke you into hurting them. Contact your local Postmaster and file a report. As for the listening in? Lower the voice somewhat, if they have to strain their ears to the point of a headache, it'll cure the nosiness. They sound like they have a lot of time on their hands and not much of a life apart from spying on yours. Finally, sometimes when we're struggling mentally it's hard to know what's part of the illness or has in fact happened. Try extremely hard to separate the two. Speak with your doctor about some of your concerns.

Do you have proof that she's taking your mail?

Stealing mail is a federal offence and can land her in jail.

And it will include all kind of mail, including catalogues or even just brochures mailed to you.

Best way is to invest in some hidden cameras. Pretty sure you can get them around $100 these days.

With that kind of proof, you can either land your neighbor in the deep end of the court system, or just use that as a warning.

(if she's as bad as you said, I'd do the first one, then you can say that she's stalking you and want a court order against her being around you)

Have some fun with it. I just wish I had a neighbour doing the same. Start slow in a few weeks they could be thought of as the crazys of your neighborhood. Relax Lean Back and Let The Games Begin.

You may think that you will have to take some drastic measures to get this sorted...But you dont.

Get you're walls soundproofed and if not you could let them overhear a conversation where you say you are going to take action against them.

Go out and get you're mail as soon as it comes.

I have a slightly similar situation - have put up with it for a year but have now decided i was too nice and reported it to the landlord, who will sort it out.

Now i have found my courage i am pushing for a "HIM or ME" outcome; i have no complaints against me in almost 2 years' residence so he would go !!

If you dont mind the slightly tacky look...and if you don't have very many visitors, you can pad your walls with foam (you know like the egg crate foms like the ones you put on your matress/bed to make it more comfortable liek they sell in Wal-Mart???) Anyhew put the foam/spongy sheets on your wall like they do in music studios. That may help in keeping the sounds from traveling.

Report it to your landlord and if she is taking mail then this is a Police matter as it's theft.

Talk this over with your mental health worker (you should have one through your community mental health team). They should be able to help.