Relationship Advice....?

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Serious problem. In High School and college, I slept with hundreds of women without any problems, no relationships, no expectations, no commitments. I got to a point in college where I thought I needed to be more committed and serious. The problem is now, at 31, I cannot have sex more than 3 times with a woman without getting emotionally attached.  I tried holding out on sex for as long as possible when getting to know a woman. I usually can make it 5 or six dates without getting bored, But after I lose interest in anything beyond friendship. But once we have sex, they want to do it regularly, and after about the 3rd time, I get emotionally invested. What's worse is I get jealous of their other suitors, which seems so petty, and I feel so controlling. It is ridiculous.  Aside from simply avoiding women all together, I don't know what to do. Honestly, things were so much simpler when I just slept around, than when I try to date. Any Advice? Anyone else experienced a problem like this?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Stop dating until you find you like a woman for who she is not just for her sex

Anonymous · Answer

It just sounds like you have a fear of commitment. What is wrong with becoming emotionally involved with someone that you have sex with...ummmm? That's what relationships are based on. When you feel that way about a girl, let it go where it will go, and see if she has the same feelings for you. Don't be afraid of that feeling. Everyone gets their heartbroken at times, but you will never have a meaningful relationship without taking some risks. There is nothing petty about being jealous of another guy when you feel something for someone.
If you're the one for her, there will be no one to be jealous of. But you aren't going to find that out unless you allow yourself to feel for someone.

Best Wishes

Kari · Answer

I believe that now at the ripe age of 31, your wanting more out of your life. More than just random women. Your now maybe thinking, you want to settle down, have a family.But i think your trying too hard not to get attached. I mean no one wants the heart broken, but if you dont take the chance to maybe get emtionally attached to someone, you may never find love. Love is taking chances. So dont avoid women, and dont sleep around. Just be you and live life and i gaurentee that a women will come along who will surprise you! Stop worring about attachment, Women do it all the time!! lol, Best of luck to yoU!!!

sexy lady · Answer

You sound like a pervert, first of all.  I don't know why any woman in her right mind would want to be with you anyway.  But, aside from that I think that you should just stop sleeping around and get to know the girls a little bit first to see if you think they would be worth having as a girlfriend.  Then make the moves.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to stop dating for a bit until you can see more in a woman than sex

fallout_boyz_rock · Answer

ok so it sounds to me like u need to find someone u have lots of things that are not the same things u like and try not to have sex after the first few dates wait till u find some intrests and wait if u can to do it maybe it will give u a serious relationship

sheli r · Answer

let me tell you some real good advice..
date her 3 times without sex...if you are board move on..shes not for you..if you find yourself still wanting her..keep dating..without sex..if your feelings for her prosiest..shes the one.
  .you keep looking..keep dating..apparently you know sex in a relationship rite away is a emotional problem with you..so keep it out till you know shes the one..

Anonymous · Answer

u just need self control and you would befine and don't see woman as just sex

mr. man · Answer

find someone who doesnt care bout sex and control urself

yung $$$ · Answer

who cares just have sex

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