how long will it take to get over a broken heart?

What's happening here is not that you are mourning for a relationship that was painful and not working, what is happening is that you are feeling sorry for yourself.

I'm going to tell you something that will work to help you to get over it, but you are not going to believe me. There is scientific evidence that it will work. So I'll tell you anyway.

You need to do something for someone else, without hope for reward or reciprocity. Go visit someone in a nursing home, volunteer someplace like an animal shelter or a soup kitchen. Go someplace where you can help teach an adult to learn how to read. Find a blind person that you can read to.

You will feel better about yourself. Your parents and friends will respect you more. If you do it long enough it will help you get hired for your first job, or help you get into college.

But the real benefit to you is that you will be relieved of the pain of feeling sorry for yourself.

When you start up with someone, there are only 3 possible outcomes:

You can break up

You can get married

One of you can die.

Nobody died, and you didn't marry anybody who was abusive. You won.

And don't listen to those people who will tell you to go out and find somebody else right away. That's called a rebound romance, and you are vulnerable. You are likely to make the same mistakes again.

[Edit] I just went back and read your profile. I thought that you were a teenager. Adjust the parts about parents and college, but the basic information is still valid.

If you want to talk more, you can e-mail me. Don't worry, I'm not trying to do anything to deceive you.

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It's normal to feel that way.

Different people will get over breakups at different rates. My first break up took 6 months to heal. Some people never really get over their breakups till many years later.

You will play an important part in getting better. The fact that you have convinced yourself that he is not someone you want to be with anymore is good start (who wants a verbally abusive husband?).

Keep yourself busy with work or studying, learn a new sport, hobby or take up a course or get a part time job. Keeping yourself busy can do wonders. When you think of him, remind yourself that he is not the right one and you deserve better. That will help you stick to the right decision too.

Hating him for the time being helps too, just get rid of everything that reminds you of him as if he is an enemy. change your address and shift if you have to just lose him from your life and maybe when you are over him you can get in touch and be friends again (maybe). concentrate on your own recovery for now.

Only time can heal a broken heart and the longer you allow him to do his job, the better he does it. As time passes, you heart will hurt lesser and lesser and before you know it, you may have fallen for someone else.

Be strong, he is not worth dying for, tell yourself you deserve better and there will be someone better somewhere down the road.

God Bless!

I know exactly what you're going thru, only diff was that I moved out. It is super painful. The pain will begin to fade. I have been gone for 3 weeks now and I am feelin so much better because I am not bein abused in any way. Go out with your friends, meet a new guy, just have fun. It will all get better in time. Keep your head high and don't let him talk you into gettin back together cause things will get worse. Good luck

i understand how you are feeling right now this very same thing happened to me three months ago. we were together for 3 years and lived together for the last 2 and he was verbally abusive as well. I say yes, you are better off without him and you must remind yourself of this over and over again until it sticks. Yes it feels like your world is over but you must be strong and in time you will find you could care less about him. Dont call him, or text him, or go see him becuase you will just end up more hurt. Dont try to run from your feelings. Cry if you need to cry, and call a good freind if you have one. its normal for you to hurt and you should be if you really loved him but your dream guy is coming soon.

It´s totally normal what you´re feeling hon. It will pass. Just be nice to yourself and don´t beat yourself up. I really advise cutting off all contact with your ex. It hurts so much but is ultimately better for you and will reduce your recovery time by loads. You can go straight into a rebound relationship or a fling but to really get over a person I heard somewhere you should allow a week for every month you were together. Go get your hair done, dance, flirt with guys, enjoy the attention but try not to get swept off your feet yet just to forget the last guy. You´re worth it!

well, it depends on how long you were with him. Id say if you were with him for over 6 months and up to 1 year, it will take at least a gooood month just to not have that bad feeling in your head/stomach whenever you think of what you could be doing with him at any given time.

However, I would not take some of the other peoples advice and run out and get yourself a new guy thats more attractive.. That will just end up badly because its a "rebound" and when you finally find that out, you will break up with him, and possibly break his heart or hurt him-- even if he doesnt admit it.

If you had been together over a year, it will definitely take more time to get over it, but just stick it out. try to fill your life with activity. Get into a good tv show, go bowling with your friends, go to the beach, go hang out with your friends at their houses. Chances are if you are alone for long enough time, you will start to think about him and thats only going to make it worse. So either try to be active or try to hang out with people, or both at the same time! good luck!

it is hard to say when you will get over a broken heart. broken hearts are different for different people. sometimes it could take days, weeks, even months. some things to stay away from are love movies and songs...they make you feel twice as bad because it reminds you of what you had. another way to help get over it is to hang out with just your friends. go out and have a good time with them. one thing that you do not want to do is blame yourself for what happened with him. if he was verbally abusive then you are better off without him. it is not your fault and keep telling yourself that. goodluck

It will stop as soon as you find a guy who is in every way better than that jerk, and respects you as a person. Time heals all wounds is not just a say so, it is true, but you have to stop looking in the past and compairing every guy with him. Like past can't come back, what is the use of towing the hurt and blindly ruin your future, it won't help, just make you into a negetive person. SO SHAKE YOURSELF UP AND GO OUT THERE AND FIND A NICE GUY. THERE ARE PLENTY OF THEM!!

Believe me when I tell you this, the only way to get over a broken heart is to give it time. I found out myself, that time is the only answer. Go out with your friends. Redecorate your place. If you don't have the money to do that, just re-arrange the furniture. Do different things. That way you are less likely to think about him. But at the end of the day, the real answer is time. Good luck hun.